I met my now fiance a number of years ago. We had so much in common, it was truly uncanny. We got so well and even today we don't really fight much. Our two personalities gelled together. He fell in love with me and I him. I will be honest, he wasn't my type at first but he was a good man. He was a hard worker and we got on so well.
We have some issues.
Our relationship is completely sexless. It's not from my side. Any time we do try and have sex, it seems as if he can't maintain an erection for vaginal intercourse and he whacks one out beside me inside like some sort of masturbation together but this is so unfulfilling for me. The frequency has pretty much dropped to pretty much nothing about once or twice a year. It's truly awful. I view sex as an important component to a relationship and we are both still relatively young and we are not sick with any serious health problems and we don't have any young babies or kids. We are both approaching 40. My issue is that he's never been to the doctor about his issue. Surely some tablets would help. Instead of trying to face this issue he took on a new job where we work opposite schedules so it is a wedge between us. I don't know if it was deliberate on his part in order not to face the sexlessness. We went from 1/2/3 times a month to about 1/2 every 2 or 3 or 4 months and then it dwindled further from there. At this stage I'm at a point where its been so long it's awkward.
There's another issue in that he's not looking after his oral hygiene. His gums bleed spontaneously and there's so many nights when he goes to bed without brushing his teeth. He doesn't floss either. I don't know if he's afraid of seeing blood and then he decides to stop or if his gums are sore. This is another issue for me. If his mouth wasn't so bad I could let me do oral on me due to the other lack of sexual activities but I can't stand the idea of receiving oral sex from him knowing that his oral hygiene is often neglected.
There's two issues between us and there's another. Three times already this year, whenever we've been out together, I will go the the toilets for example and I will come back to find him holding my phone and trying to get into the screen only that it's locked with my fingerprint. I have nothing to hide by the way but the fact that there was an attempt to invade my privacy. What the f*ck was he hoping to find on my phone?
There's another issue. He has demonstrated a complete lack of patience on the road right on down to a pure rage. There was a road traffic collision a few weeks ago on the road. Not between him. It was between other road users and the traffic was backed up due to the blockage on the road. It was somewhat stressful but she showed a pure rage towards other motorists who were also in the same position as him. They were all stuck and there was nothing anybody could have done. I didn't like that.
He does still seem to be eager to marry me. He would like us to attend a wedding fair but I am somewhat apprehensive about it all now. Its due to the lack of sex, poor oral hygiene, trying to invade my privacy and the rage on the road.
Has anyone here dealt with anything similar in a relationship?