Gambling

[WIRosey]

Hi
I've got a gambling problem. I've had it for years, and hid it very well. Hubby has no idea. I manage the money and make sure all bills paid etc.
The run up to Christmas is always a tough time. Always feel the need to buy more for kids, and gamble more.
I was cat sitting for kids friends last week, and when I was there, there was a laptop open on the table. To cut a long story short, I logged on and used it to gamble. Not with their money, with mine.
Not sure how but the dad knows i was using it. He's massaged me asking if I've got a problem. And if we wanted to come to an arrangement to keep it quiet.
I'm soo scared at the moment. Need some help. X

You must tell your husband

What does he mean come to an arrangement? Does he mean sex for his silence?

First contact GamCare then tell your husband everything. You have to. Once you have done that you need to tell this mans wife that he is trying to blackmail you in to sex.

I've not replied to him yet.
I instantly read it as sex though.

I wouldn't reply at all.

What are you going to do about your gambling?

I’d speak to your husband and get some support. What an awful thing for your friends husband to do!

It is a really awful addiction and I wish you all the success in beating it. First you must reach out to others, speaking the truth will help.

Jesus christ.

Sorry, posted too soon! Do you really think he's trying to blackmail you into sex?

Play dumb and ask what he means, what kind of arrangement?

Tell your husband. Then if it is sex this man wants, he has nothing over you.

I've found a gamblers anonymous meeting nearby that I'm going to try and attend.

He has a bit of a reputation as a womaniser and a flirt. His wife seems oblivious.

So many things in my head. And butterflies in my stomach

A man threatening a woman is not a womaniser - he is at best a coercive sexual predator. You need to tell your husband, and this ands wife and consider reporting him to the Police for blackmail.

You are going to have to bite the bullet and tell your husband. Yes it is going to painful but I have no idea how you are going to beat a gambling habit by keeping it a secret from your DH while retaining your role of looking after the household finances. No idea what sums are involved or if indeed you are in considerable debt, but he needs to know as I assume it is 'family money' being pissed away. Yes he will be annoyed, but hopefully when the dust settles he will be your rock when it comes to beating your addiction.

As for the other bloke, keep a copy of any correspondence alluding to an 'arrangement' and tell him you will show it to his DW/DP if ever mentions it again.

If he's blackmailing you, you need to tell your husband first. It's not the end of the world unless you're in debt of course?

Or turn the tables and shoe his wife the text?