Is this too soon?

[LadySilence]

Separated from partner of 9 years and moved out this summer. We'd been living as flatmates for the last three years or so with absolutely no physical contact or affection but were still essentially 'together'. The separation was amicable and we remain friends.
For the last couple of weeks I've been seeing a guy I knew from before I met my ex. He is lovely, I like him a lot and am enjoying his company, not to mention the physical connection! My issue is I can't stop thinking that this is too soon given the length of my previous relationship and that maybe I should just be on my own for a while. Also worried people might think I've 'moved on' too soon even though this is very much just fun at the moment. Am I just over thinking it all?!

Who cares what people think? Enjoy your freedom and have fun :)

You've been in an affection-less relationship for 3 years. Do what you want!

Thank you both

As long as you don't move crazily fast (moving in together after 5 minutes with a load of kids between you etc) just go for it & have some fun!

Three years without physical affection? No way it’s too soon. You and your ex were just good friends by the end any way

I have no kids and neither does he so no issue there. I sort of feel like I wanted to be completely single for longer before getting involved with anyone but we reconnected by chance and it's just lovely to feel wanted again

Who sets the rules for you about how soon?

I spent most of my life with no gaps between relationships and in hindsight it was a bad idea. I think being truly single (because you weren't whilst you were still living with him - you weren't truly free and making your own decisions) is really good and helps you understand who you are and what you enjoy.

I dated someone just after I'd physically left my ex even though we had been split but living together for 18 months.

I then spent nearly a year single and I have become a completely different person. That time spent pleasing myself and not having to cater for anyone else (other than my kids) has made me so strong and confident. I have now proof that I love my single life, so unless a relationship is amazing, it isn't worth it. I didn't understand that before and compromised where I shouldn't.

Really interested perspective momijin thank you. I guess this is what I'm worried about, jumping into something too soon. It's all just a bit of fun at the moment and I don't want to necessarily cut that off either though!