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Did you struggle to bond with baby because of the father?

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Melodye5 · 28/11/2021 11:06

I’ve done a lot of research and believe the father of my baby is a narcissist. I’ve realised that when we first met he did a lot of future faking, love bombing and gas lighting. I fell pregnant by accident and he promised to be there for me but he was emotionally unavailable the whole pregnancy. It was constant discard and hoovering. His family , friends and work colleagues had no idea what he was like behind closed doors because he’d speak so proudly about the baby to them. I was and still am portrayed as unreasonable and well, crazy. When baby arrived, I decided to leave him for good but he kept hoovering me back in. It’s relentless, I feel like he will never stop trying to control and manipulate my life? Im heartbroken about it all because I Don’t remember the first 6 months of baby’s life, it’s all a blur because I constantly focused on him. I’m worried I haven’t been able to bond with my baby because I don’t feel an overwhelming love for baby. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

OP posts:
nocnoc · 29/11/2021 06:51

You need to get out and go no contact. Do you have anywhere you can go?

Begrateful · 29/11/2021 10:03

With baby in hand, run away from this man.

ToughTittyWhompus · 29/11/2021 10:06

This was very much my ex. I barely saw him in the last few months of my pregnancy (but the flying monkeys and hoovering never stopped), and he only saw DD once or twice as a newborn.

She’s 5 now and he’s not bothered his arse, which I’m grateful for.

You need to cut all contact.

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