Am I the only one?

[Mamaof2222]

I've realised this has now become a platform to just have a rant. So thank you to anyone that replies to this rant lol. Nearly every morning I get out of bed when baby (5month old) wakes up anytime from 5am sometimes 4am. I get straight out of bed and come in the sitting room to start our day. My partner wakes up about 8/9am and sits in bed on his phone for about ten mins then calls me from the bedroom and tells me I can bring the baby to him. I know he is trying to be helpful and yes it is nice so I can get in my shower etc. But it really frustrates me as baby gets agitated sitting on the bed while he watches TV. This really annoys me as I feel like as soon as he is up he should get out of bed come in sitting room. He thinks if he wants to sit in bed for the next hour or two he should be able to. I don't know if I am wrong for feeling frustrated. I also feel like it's breaking our routine as baby associates bedroom with sleeping. Am I being a little dramatic?

Not at all, especially if it means you can go back to sleep in the bed, but I don’t understand why you’re getting up at 4 in the morning!

@karwomannghia baby sometimes not always wakes up at four and he doesn't go back to sleep.

Join 'Bridging the Gap' group on facebook for some support in getting your partner to parent his child properly and give you the support you deserve, need and are entitled to.

I'm on my own with a nearly 3 year old, never had anyone to hand the baby too ever not even on nights he's thrown up everywhere and crying so much I can't put him down so I've changed cot sheets with one hand in the dark lol

But yes he's being selfish and lazy

Your husband is a poor parent and bad partner. It’s difficult but you have to stop enabling his behaviour. The fact that you think he is being ‘nice’ by allowing you to have a shower when you’ve been up since 4-5am says it all really. Have better standards for yourself and your child.

I'm a dad to two young kids. My wife needs more sleep than me, so I do virtually all of the early morning kid time and most of the night wakings. (She does more of other things like buying clothes and presents.) I agree that kids need attention when a parent is looking after them - not just to be dumped somewhere while the parent watches TV or looks at their phone. I think most people on Mumsnet will agree with you. However, I'm not sure how you can get your partner to see things more this way.

Tell him what you need. Tell him how you feel when you don't get what you need, due to him concerning himself solely with what he needs. Tell him what will happen if he doesn't start respecting your needs (your love and respect for him will diminish, you will come to an understanding that watching TV is more important to him than your happiness, and your respect for him/desire to be with him will reflect that)

Then follow through.

Your feelings are never right or wrong. They just are. Present them, always, respectfully, to the person who needs to know, and expect them to be respected. If they are not, pull away from that person, because they are disrespecting the manifestation of your heart and soul; the real you. That's what feelings are.