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Original poster

Matched with friend OLD

35 replies

Ssntie99 · 27/11/2021 22:27

Hi

I've matched with a friend online dating...its a site where I have to make the first move. We meet as part of a hobby group and I have grown to like him more than as friends.

I'm never sure if he is interested in me romantically or not...I heard through mutual friends over a year ago that he was but lockdowns happened and we didnt date or anything. I am useless at picking up on signs and not sure that I'm great at giving them either! Just wondering if matching is a good sign and how to I start the conversation?!!
Thanks for reading!

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HollowTalk · 27/11/2021 22:34

Can't you just say something casual like oh that's funny we've been matched?

sandy354 · 27/11/2021 22:36

He wouldn't have swiped right if he didn't like you so go for it

cakecakecheese · 27/11/2021 22:37

Yes as Hollowtalk says use it as an icebreaker. 'We've been matched, does that mean we should go for a drink?'

me4real · 27/11/2021 22:42

You both have to swipe right or whatever for it to be a match on Bumble if that's where you mean.

So, he likes you. Smile

You could message him and say 'fancy meeting you here' or whatever. Smile

reasysteady · 27/11/2021 22:42

But you have both swiped on each other therefore you have both chosen to attempt to date?

Or are you saying an algorithm has matched you two together?

me4real · 27/11/2021 22:44

'we must stop meeting like this.' Smile

Yummypumpkin · 27/11/2021 22:46

Of course he likes you if he matched!

BrilliantBetty · 27/11/2021 22:48

Might as well see what happens

Yummypumpkin · 27/11/2021 22:48

Although I will add that I once matched with an acquaintance who then told me he'd liked me for ages, and his intensity put me off, so retain a sense of humour and don't mention destiny lol

OrlandointheWilderness · 27/11/2021 22:49

He obviously likes you to be matched. Message him!

Original poster
Ssntie99 · 27/11/2021 23:32

Thanks everyone! It feels a bit strange taking the step from friendship to possible dating but I guess its worth a go...

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aurynne · 27/11/2021 23:33

Message him!!!!!

And then come back and tell us all about it Grin

reasysteady · 27/11/2021 23:38

@Ssntie99

Thanks everyone! It feels a bit strange taking the step from friendship to possible dating but I guess its worth a go...
Honestly I treat a first date as a really casual meeting to see if there's any attraction there or the potential to go further.

As you already are attracted to each other (otherwise why match? - that would be so awkward!) then you are already halfway there. Go for it!

Figgrow · 27/11/2021 23:41

This happened to me! Someone I used to work with and had fancied for a while matched with me OLD after I left (we did keep in touch on WhatsApp, but wasn't flirty or anything). He said he didn't have the nerve to ask me out so took the easy route and left it in my hands whether to respond or not, we are married now :)

To be honest I'd just carry on as mates but meet up and see where it goes if you already know him so there's not tonnes of pressure, but yes it sounds like he likes you or he wouldn't have swiped!

Irishfarmer · 27/11/2021 23:46

He def likes you! And completely worth what is probably a tiny risk

Coviddy · 27/11/2021 23:58

I would never assume a man liked me because of a match! I've seen too many just idly swipe swipe swipe while watching TV without even looking at the phone screen in the hope of a - any! - match!!

But if you like him I'd start with something as suggested above. Good luck!

SD1978 · 28/11/2021 00:08

Is it a site where he has to have registered his interest first, or is it a suggested in your area thing? If it's a site where he has had to say yes to your profile, then go for it. If it's a suggested match and he hasn't had to 'do' anything to get on your list, start jokey, or at least I would.

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Ssntie99 · 28/11/2021 10:58

Yeah it's a site where we matched based on swiping! The thing I'm not sure about is like Coviddy said maybe he was just mindlessly swiping right and it wasnt so intentional...I suppose I wont know that until I send that message!!

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NynaeveSedai · 28/11/2021 11:00

You only have 24 hours to message if I remember correctly on that site? Hurry up!!

Coviddy · 28/11/2021 11:07

Just message him! YOLO

josephinerosa · 28/11/2021 13:13

Have you messaged?

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Ssntie99 · 29/11/2021 15:19

I sent a message last night...waiting on the reply!!

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Termitesareproblematic · 29/11/2021 17:50

What did you say?

samesign · 29/11/2021 18:10

I'd think he matched you as he knows you rather than wanting to date you.

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Ssntie99 · 29/11/2021 18:19

Oh no samesign I hope not!! I have come across friends on dating app before and definitely swipe left as I'm not interested in dating them but I know guys can be different about swiping 🙈

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