Tomorrow I will be taking my children to drop them off at their dads. They haven't seen him for over a year. Contact was stopped for safety reasons at my initiation, supported by school and lawyer but obviously he hasn't seen it that way.
It's been a long drawn out process with him refusing to admit any wrong, running up costs and generally being an arse making my life as difficult as possible (malicious reports to social services, accusations that I was emotionally abusive, constant threats of court, you get the idea. Emotional abuse cliche)
Luckily my lawyer is fantastic and she held firm and eventually he had to concede. He will be furious about this as I have never stood up for myself as long and as firmly as this before. So tomorrow could be interesting. There is nobody else who can do the drop off and I don't think I am in any physical danger. It will be a simple drop at the door and go.
I just need some stock phrases or actions if he decides to start some jibes or passive aggressive (or not so passive) lines of attack. I suspect because the kids are there he'll go for subtle but if they go inside then he might launch into full on vitriol. I'm aware I can just walk away.
I also have him blocked at the moment. Acceptable to keep him blocked and just unblock him during the hours he has the boys? This was my plan? He actually can contact me on my phone he just doesn't realise it because all he uses is WhatsApp. I don't want to draw his attention to this but if he thought hard enough about it he could