How long after meeting online

[northernlight20]

Hi, I would like opinions please. How long after meeting online, did you come off the dating site? Met a man 4weeks ago, we get on brilliantly and we would like to give it a go and see how it goes. I would also like to come off the dating site, but I worry I’m putting all my eggs in one basket.

I met my DP through OLD after 4 weeks we decided to become boyfriend/girlfriend and came off the dating site by this point. 4 years later we are still together and just bought our first house together. Depends if it feels right.

Third date in person. Probably three weeks from first match OLD

You could just pause your account if your not 100%

2 months the shortest - but have you spoken to him yet? You wouldn’t want to come off the site if he hasn’t

@TractorAndHeadphones

2 months the shortest - but have you spoken to him yet? You wouldn’t want to come off the site if he hasn’t

had 3 dates, a 4th has been arranged. we get on great, no red flags and hes lovely.

Third date - so a couple of weeks. We talked about it and agreed (he’d actually already come off immediately after our first date).

Three years in, getting married next summer.

Is it a big deal because you want him to do the same ?

Because otherwise, why wouldn't you just do what you want - you can always start OLD again if it doesn't work out.

In my last LTR I think it was after about a month from first date. I didn't tell him I was doing it, I just cancelled my membership. By that time I knew the sex was amazing with him and I really didn't have the time or energy to keep auditioning backups 😂

I think he stayed on there about another 3 months.

Pause your membership or hide your profile?

When it felt right and it looked like we were heading into exclusive territory. We have been together 7 years and married for a year

I met my boyfriend online but he lives quite some distance so it was 4 weeks before our first actual date (we had been messaging and calling daily up to then). We hit it off and he told me multi dating was a dealbreaker for him, do we both agreed to delete the dating apps. Still together 6 months later 😊

@category12

Is it a big deal because you want him to do the same ?

Because otherwise, why wouldn't you just do what you want - you can always start OLD again if it doesn't work out.

he was the one who wanted to come off them and as much as i want to and we get on, i also know what OLD is like, so, im cautiously hiding my profile and seeing how it goes.

Ah, him driving it puts a bit of a different complexion on it. Your OP made it sound like you were doing it off your own bat.

For me it was after date one. TBH it is more because I don't have the mental energy to compartmentalise that part of life! I don't know when he did it - it came up in conversation about 3 months in and he said his was long deleted.

Whenever you feel comfortable doing so.

Personally, if it's going to a second date I'd pause any other online activity to see where it goes. I don't have the time to date more than one person at a time.

Fair enough OP. I guess this means you’re exclusive now 😎
Do make sure that he actually HAS come off them. Although sometimes it takes trust and a risk

I’d agree with your course of action. The time to stop dating people is after you have the ‘exclusive’ conversation. Until then you can both see other people.

I didn't bother with it once we swapped numbers and deleted the app after 6 weeks dating. To be honest I'd forgot about it. I hated OLD and never wanted to chat to more than 1 person at a time.