What do I do

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Last night dp asked for a bj. I said no as it was late and I just wanted to go to sleep. He kept on asking and asking and I kept saying no. He then pushed my head down by my neck to his ‘area’ then pulled me up by my hair. He did this at least 4 times. I told him to stop but he kept doing it and in the end I ended up screaming at him. My neck was sore and my hair where he had pulled me up was hurting too. He’s not speaking to me at the moment for screaming at him and now I feel as if I’m in the wrong. But at the same time I feel sick thinking about what he was doing. I know what he did is wrong on so many levels but I feel because he is my partner that it’s normal and I should allow even though I know it’s not I’m so hurt by this and can’t believe he did this to me. I just don’t know what to do

I'm sorry, HE'S angry at YOU because you shouted?
WTF. HE assaulted YOU!
He has zero right to be angry at you. None. Zilch.
What a horrible disgusting little prick of a man.
OP, stay with your mum tonight and really think about what he did. Please do not consider staying with this person. It will get worse. And he's already got you thinking he is the victim here.

I feel angry for you Op.

That was physical and sexual assualt. It was a criminal act.

It was deeply disrespectful. It is not the action of someone who loves you. It shows he doesn't care about your feelings or wellbeing, and he thinks his sexual kicks are more important than you. More than that, he's the sort of man who can get sexual kicks by forcing a sex act on a woman.

That all makes him a repugnant individual. But then add on that he's trying to guilt-trip you for complaining about this - it beggars belief.

He would eithout doubt be my ex, and he should be yours.

For what he's done - showing he doesn't care for you or respect you at all. And for what he might do in future - you now know you're aren't safe with him and can't trust him.

Please stay safe, and tell someone IRL if you can. And take steps to get away from this vile and dangerous man.

I just don’t know what to do

You leave him, he's abusive.

He’s a disgusting sexual abuser. He’s treating you like shit. Don’t put up with this, op. He doesn’t respect you.

He hurt you and tryed to force you into oral sex. Despite you repearedly saying no. No means no. DP or not thats unacceptable. He should be your exDp by now.

How are you doing?