What's worse?

[ddotty]

What's worse? Your partner cheating on you with sex workers or your partner cheating on you with one woman?

Both the same IMO, they both have the same outcome - you've been cheated on.

I'd hate both equally but for slightly different reasons I guess

One woman is worse as it implies emotional connection and someone who knows more about you when you don't even know of their existence. If he's paying a sex worker by the hour he's not likely to talk about his home life and there's no emotional connection.

Either way we’re getting a divorce

I would find sex workers worse. If DH cheated on me with a colleague he'd got close with at work I could understand how that could happen and him still be the same person I fell in love with. If he cheated on me with prostitutes I'd feel like I never knew him at all, and my whole marriage had been a lie.

Eitherway, the marriage would be over.

I'd not accept either although the sex workers more likely to be emotionless sex

The one woman may involve emotion/ feelings/ love ?

Both wrong

Thanks like asking whether you prefer a punch in the face or a kick in the knackers.

'whole marriage had been a lie'

Yes, good point. Can't see many people falling in love with a person who uses, or has used, prostitutes. That implies a level of deceit that goes deeper than an affair.

@ddotty

What's worse? Your partner cheating on you with sex workers or your partner cheating on you with one woman?

Sex worker - if he was throwing away our relationship for sex alone, and using a potentially exploited woman, he wouldn't be worth knowing.

But either way, he's gone. Been down the road of trying to stick it out with a cheat and never doing that again.

I'd be shocked to the core at prostitutes. Shocked with the OW too but also deeply hurt. Theres something about him choosing one particular woman that makes it personal. Sex workers... bad ... but very mechanical I'd imagine, no kind of connection.

What's worse? Definitely prostitutes. If it's another woman, as in affair, there are emotions and feelings involved, but with a prostitute/s it's much worse because the man has deliberately decided, researched, selected, made contact and met up with one (or more) and in the process using family money to specifically stick his dick inside a whore. And of course they always try and convince you that they only did it just the once. And that OP is exactly why I am divorcing my STBXH.

Definitely one woman unless it was just a one night stand. If it was an ongoing affair it would mean it’s emotional as well as physical which is way worse to me than just sex

I’d find paying for sex abhorrent - like a PP I could almost understand how an affair with a coworker could happen and things cross a line etc. Obviously I’d be crushed but it wouldn’t fundamentally change who I thought my DP was. Finding out he paid sex workers I’d feel was a bit like finding out he had a criminal record, or enjoyed hunting or something - just not a person I would choose to be with. The whole sex ‘industry’ is grim and for him to be supportive of that - especially with family money - would be 100% unforgivable. I’d struggle to forgive an affair too, but if it I felt he was remorseful and that there was an opportunity to move past it I might try. If he used sex workers I wouldn’t ever be able to look at him again.

I would find cheating on me with another woman worse than sex workers but it would still be incredibly damaging.

I also think cheating with sex workers is a lot more seedy and sleazy though. Both shit.

I'd find cheating with sex workers worse because I think men who use sex workers have no respect for women their choices or their bodily autonomy.

I get why someone would cheat with someone they're attracted to. But to go out and purposefully pay for sex... urgh no. Never.