I met a man online in October and we went on 4 dates and chatted on the phone a few times. Lots of messaging in between dates and he always messaged me back quickly and initiated the phone calls. He's 50's, I'm 40's.
Dates all went really well but no physical contact initiated by him or me. I did invite him into my house after our second date and he declined.
On our second date he did ask where we were heading and I said I didn't know as it was too early to say but I'd like to get to know him more. He commented that I didn't seem flirty with him. I said its early days.
After our most recent date he said he didn't feel we were any more than friends and although he liked me a lot there was no spark.
This has thrown me a bit as I've not had this situation before. I'm usually having to slow things down on the physical side of things and past boyfriends have always commented on my looks and told me they've found me attractive.
I suspect he's letting me down gently by saying we'll be friends although we do have some mutual friends in common and he said he'd arrange for us all to meet up.
I'm not going to contact him again now, but I would like to see him again even if it's just as a friend. He's the first person in ages I've connected with,we chatted for hours and had similar interests. He's a really interesting person, has a great job where he gets to meet lots of well known people and
has many funny stories. He's also very polite and caring. I had thought the attraction side of things was a slow burn and it would develop.
Shall I just wait and see if he contacts me? Any insights would be great.