Sibling needing to stay indefinitely

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My sibling is to stay with me whilst they 'reset' their lives. Happy to the extent that I can accommodate them and help sort out their finances/debts and general support after them having had a couple of dreadful years. What I need help with us setting boundaries about what is acceptable behaviour while living under the same roof. For example They drink, I suffer anxiety around drunk people, I don't want a tip- toing hangover existence , they have stayed before and been lazy and not helping in the running of the house. I don't want to be a control freak but I want us to tick along together without me being in a worried bossy " mother" type role. I want us to live without me being constantly worried about where they are, what they are doing, who are they with, How can I ensure that I don't turn into a nightmare control freak with a rule book. I'm 56 they are 42 . Any suggestions ?

Don't

Hmmmm defo know the end date (July 22? Or when ever) when they will be out of your house - for your own mental state this could go on yrs.

Also, sorry doesn’t sound like it will work.

Can you give them a bit of cash to rent somewhere else not in your home.

I think you are both opposites with different values and the sibling will annoy you and could destroy the relationship…..

Good luck!

You’ll need to declare if in receipt of benefits

Based on how you've described them I'd say you don't have a hope in hell of getting what you want.

You're being very naive.
No tips because it will not work.
Do.Not.Do.It.

Say no. My father is an alcoholic. It’s destroyed his health, his life, my childhood, his marriage. He still drinks. For most alcoholics it’s their primary relationship, & it’s an abusive one.

Set the rules and boundaries up in writing.
PP have mentioned good ones.
I'll add must be employed.

Forgot to ask. Why can't they rent a room in a share house?

Do you have a partner? Children?