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He’s back with her

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Ofcrapface · 24/11/2021 22:05

So I have snooped on my ex and found he’s back with the mother of his child. We met last year and fell deeply in love, we had so many plans for the future.

When wr met he told me the story of how he had a child with someone he didn’t know. They slept together twice, she decided to keep the baby even though he didn’t want her to. Anyway he was there for her, he said she wanted a relationship he didn’t and he knew she would never be his girlfriend. He would talk for ages almost as if he was in therapy. He had some hard times with her and really used to get mad at the situation. I told him he had to concentrate on me not the past

Fast forward to 3 months ago he ends it with me. He said it’s not the right time for him, he needs to concentrate on his son, his number on priority. I was so shocked and heartbroken but I left him to it. I’ve stupidly looked on his page, found her page and they’re engaged. I feel so sad that he lied to me, I thought we could work it out. I haven’t spoken to him for months but I really want to just pour my heart out Sad

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CourageCalls2Courage · 24/11/2021 22:12

It may not feel like it and for that I'm sorry and wish you well but you really have had a lucky escape. I know it sounds trite but it's true that time heals everything and with time you will be glad that you are not in the middle of this messy situation.

Take care of yourself OP, cry it out, feel shit then be kind to yourself and forget him

antwacky · 24/11/2021 22:14

Ahh, that's awful, I'm so sorry, no wonder that your sad and heartbroken Flowers

AsleepOnTheTrain · 24/11/2021 22:14

Oh God, yes lucky escape!

samesign · 24/11/2021 22:19

Sounds very flaky in relationships, flitting from one to the next, most likely a player. As painful as it is, you've learnt what he's really like, you haven't lost a good man.

SweetBabyCheeses99 · 24/11/2021 22:22

I wouldn’t be surprised if he wasn’t with her this whole time and you were just the OW.

Sonaftersonafterson · 24/11/2021 22:57

That's a fucker... hurts so bad. I've experienced very similar.

If you need to let him know you know, just screenshot and send to him with the word "twat". That's what I did, then I ignored all his bollocks excuse messages after that, I never replied once. Sorry you met a bad one OP Flowers

Ps. Block. He will be back
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