I really like him but he’s moving to South Africa 😭

[Kmona1735]

I really like my work colleague, I think we both flirt with each other but please tell me if he’s not as I don’t want to get the wrong idea , some examples would be that he hugs me constantly, if we see each other in the corridor we’ll walk upto each other and touch at least hands or make small talk or just joke around.. he will even calls out for me if he sees me and we’ll walk and talk. He said he would give me piano lessons.. but I want to get his number somehow and I don’t know how.. and now He’s said he’s moving to South Africa Middle of next year and now I just need advice on what to do as I haven’t liked anyone in so long since an extremely bad break up..

What shall I do guys and please don’t be mean

Maybe he'll keep in touch. Maybe he'll return and you'll live happily ever after. Its a longshot (and highly unlikely) but we romantics can dream ... But if you put the ball in his court, he might want to stay in contact and who knows, you could be friends at least.

Just try not to get too carried away in your head, its hard not to if you're attracted and a Romantic too.

If men are interested, and I mean really interested, they will make absolutely certain that you know about it!

They won't leave you asking questions they won't leave you to make the first move. They just won't.

I'm sorry. Get on Bumble! That's where all the good men are!

Sending hugs.

South Africans are very tactile people! And also very good in bed 😉
Go for it! Even if it doesn’t develop it can be a bit of fun! God knows we need fun to get our minds off covid these days!

Not only is he is moving away but you aren't even together. I'd say write this one off as what could have been if things were different, and get out there dating. This could actually be good for you because it will be hard to meet people if you are hung up on him, once he moves though you'll forget about him and move on.

He’s moving to South Africa and (other than hugging you at work and ‘touching hands’ in the corridor) hasn’t made a move toward a relationship. I’d write it off. Even in a real relationship it would be difficult to stay together if one of you moved away to Africa.

Looking at the headlines this morning, it looks as though he may be staying a while longer, so more time to make your move.

Middle of next year is ages.

I got together with a guy I liked, after confessing my feelings and getting him interested. He never would have made a move because he's not really like that.

Three days after getting together he got confirmation of moving abroad in 6 months. We decided we'd still stay together and see what happened.

20 years and 3 children later, we can safely say that worked out!

I agree with the poster who says if I guy really likes you you will know about it, the rest is just ego stroke. If you don´t agree with this, just ask him out for a coffee and see where it goes. I think nowhere, but I may be wrong.

Thanks guys I think I’m just going to leave it, I’ll continue being friendly but nothing more. I can’t take another heart break

You sound a little fragile, OP (bad break up, shy, can't take another heartbreak). I think you ought to steer clear of him romantically, but there's nothing to stop you getting those piano lessons and deepening a friendship if you feel that you'd like to be his friend.

It's a nice little boost that someone treats you nicely and is tactile with you, but maybe start dating again to meet someone who is a more realistic (not moving to SA) prospect.

You sound lovely OP, but I'm not sure what to think here. Would he be planning to move to SA if he was looking to get seriously involved with you? Would it then be the case of you moving with him or him changing his mind? Maybe this is a "it's not the right time" situation.

I think I would leave it. I say that because, aside from the S. Africa thing, you've described him as being very outgoing, touchy feely and talkative. He sounds like the type of person who would have asked you out if he wanted to.

He might just really get along with you / enjoy the flirting as it brightens the work day.

He might like you more than that but realise it wouldn't be sensible to do anymore as he's moving away.

You may find an oppourtunity arises to have a more serious conversation with him (Christmas sometimes brings those ops!) but be ready for him to say that he doesn't want a r'ship, and don't take it personally if he does.

If you did end up dating, you could face heartbreak when he moves away.

If you can't take another heartbreak, start trying to disengage your feelings for him.

If you think you could take a little heart bump when he leaves in exchange for a little romance now then go ahead but do so, knowing that it will be something that is destined to be a romantic memory. If it should turn into something more then that would be an unlikely bonus.

If you think you are strong enough, then begin by asking him for his number so you can arrange a piano lesson or ask him for a coffee after work.

Only you know if the promise of romance now will be worth the later sting.