Does anyone else go off men after sleeping with them once

[SandraOhh]

I don't want them to touch me again after. It's like a switch goes off. Does anyone else experience this?

@SandraOhh

But to feel that way about them all? I do genuinely really like them at first. Then it just evaporates. Friends tell me I'm like a man.

I'd suggest seeing a therapist, because if you want a relationship you will need to do it more than once with the same person!

Majority of men are not like this anyway.

[quote SandraOhh]@CatAndHisKit maybe it is about the conquest. I don't know. I just don't understand how people stay together for years and maintain interest and desire in the other person. I can't even get past a few weeks![/quote]
Love is the answer.

I feel exactly the same.I often get this vision of humans having sex just like rabbits.its an urge that needs to be satified and really has fuck all to do with love.I have had many hours of therapy to get clarity why I feel like this.I think,need a very strong emotional connection first and in my experience men are not interested in waiting for an emotional connection.I am happy single now with friends.

@TurnUpTurnip

No but I think a lot of men feel this way with women

My thoughts too.

@SandraOhh I was like this when I split from my husband.
In my case it was as @CatAndHisKit says it was the thrill of the chase - once I had that there was nothing else.
Very occasionally it went to FWB but more often than not it was a one off.

I was also told by friends and the occasional guy I slept with that I was similar to a guy.
In my case I had my barriers up so high I wasn't letting anyone in regardless and I had no emotional feelings around sex at all.

Me! I don't want a relationship, so if I have a ONS, I have scratched the itch and I'm done. It's only really an issue if you have a ONS with a nice bloke, who wants more than that.

@SortingItOut I really relate to that. I have no emotional feelings around it either. Did you manage to sort that?

@rrhuth I've never experienced that with a man.

@SandraOhh No not sorted. I'm now in a relationship with someone who was an FWB and I still have no feelings around sex.
I quite like it, it stops you thinking you're in love when its just lust.

[quote SandraOhh]@rrhuth I've never experienced that with a man.[/quote]
There are only two questions:

Do you want to? A) yes B) no
Can you emotionally A) yes B) no

If your answers are A + B you have a problem, if not then carry on!!

I think I have a problem then as I am A and B! @SortingItOut are you not in love then?

@SandraOhh I was in an emotionally abusive relationship/marriage for 19 years.
I am so closed off now I can't let anyone in, I'm a classic emotionally unavailable person.
I'm not even sure what love is anymore so how can I love someone?

I'm 3.5yrs out and starting counselling 2 months ago.
I've been with my boyfriend 2 years and he understands as he has also come from not so great relationships so we're happy being emotionally unavailable together😂

Sounds a little bit like the Coolidge effect, but I thought that a male only thing really

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect#Potentiality_in_female_animals

Yes if it’s shit!

Depends - if the sex was poor and seems unlikely to improve then I don’t want to see them again. If I enjoyed it, or enjoyed their company and there is potential for improvement I’m keen to see them again.

Yes. I'm like this. I feel less attracted to someone the more I get to know them.

I may still like them as a person but I no longer fancy them.

I’ve had this before as well. I’m not sure why? It is like the veil is lifted and the attraction is instantly severed