How does she get herself in order to leave?

[MrsDThaskala]

My friend told me this evening that she can't take anymore and wants to end her marriage. I've had suspicion but she's never said it outright. They have two children. Personally I think he is a narcissist. she realises this now. I've always been supportive and never said anything to her. She always appeared happy and quite in control of her life. Tonight she told me it all. Feel floored. Anyway- we said we'd talk this weekend. She's not ready yet but wants to do this after Christmas. I've read on here many times people saying "get yourself in order" financially etc. What do people mean by this? I have no idea. She works full time. She has family to support her. They have a house in both their names. What can she do to get things in order before she is ready to end her marriage?

First thing. See a lawyer. Legal advice is important.

In order to sort the financials she will need to show both parties' income, savings, pensions, house value, any other properties etc. Tax returns, bank and pension statements etc

Useful to remove her & children's passports, things with sentimental value etc.

He takes on all of the finances. I don't think she knows anything.

Then she needs to change that. If there's accessible paperwork, copy it, if it's all online, can she get passwords? Start researching options for where she or he are going to move to. What residency split does she envisage and what cam she afford alone? Cold hard practicalities.

start looking at private rentals
some are advertised now and say they it'll be ready to move in in about 2 monthes maybe less time due to being decorated at least then she as somewhere ready to go to while she gets everything else sorted