I think I need to leave…

[Questionablechoices]

I am in a relationship that has been going on for about 5 years. It was happy once. It isn’t now.

We aren’t married and don’t have children together but have children each.

I’m devastated as I thought this was it, but this one person I used to want to share everything with I don’t anymore. We have had some major rows over things, usually related to the children and/or parenting. But I am sick of being told how to parent my own children and also sick of being told constantly that I am the person in the wrong. Even when they are wrong, it’s somehow my fault anyway.

I feel like I am having to justify every single thing that I do, particularly where my children are concerned and I don’t feel like they get enough of me because I feel like a lot I live on edge.

I know this isn’t right, but the fall is going to be hard, sorting out money; and all the things that are intertwined in a relationship and the thought of even starting that process is making me feel sick, however I would rather be left with nothing than carry on like this.

I just need a hand hold I think and for someone to remind me I am doing the right thing.

100% the right thing. You prioritise yourself and your kids. And you'll find the strength to get through the complicated parts. Don't settle - you're worth more than settling.

Very sad and difficult but your children deserve better than this situation, as do you. 💐

Stay strong. You and your children deserve better. My mother stayed in an unhealthy relationship. It has damaged my sister and I long term. Give yourselves a safe and happy home.

Ultimately having our own dc and none together broke us up. He was lying about his wages as he resented my dc being around ft and his not being. He resented providing for my dc and not his as he paid Cms and nothing left for more...
Walk away op. Once criticisms starts it's the start of the end ime.

You can leave a relationship for any reason you want to, however big or small.

@Santaischeckinglists

Ultimately having our own dc and none together broke us up. He was lying about his wages as he resented my dc being around ft and his not being. He resented providing for my dc and not his as he paid Cms and nothing left for more... Walk away op. Once criticisms starts it's the start of the end ime.

I very much relate to this. It does feel like it’s the beginning of the end here for us too.

I think this is also the thing that has ultimately broke us up too. He resents my kids for god knows what reason why. They aren’t easy but no kids are.

On one hand we have a good life financially and physically. But that’s no pay off. I do feel like emotionally me and my kids are better off just us, where I make the decisions and don’t have to justify any of them to anyone, and where they know they get the best of me. I think being on my own is the way forward for me.

You can’t be with a man who resents your children. You’re doing the right thing.