Dating a younger man with less experience than yourself

[Aautumn]

Hello. Newbie here!

Have you or would date a man 5-10 years younger than yourself?

Most of my friends, male and female are older than I and I have always preferred dating older women, although I have only had several brief relationships.

Thank you in advance.

Yes, I dated a man 12 years my junior.

The relationship didn't work out unfortunately because I wanted to have children and he didn't (wasn't ready financially or emotionally) otherwise we were very compatible.

8 years younger than me. I had 2 kids and was done, he deffo wanted dc. Also he was relatively inexperienced when it came to relationships, and I ended up resenting that he didn't take the lead more (in everything).

I don't think 5 years is really a big gap.
10 potentially isn't either depending on your ages.

I'm 33 and I'd say that I look to date around ages 25-36. So up to 8 years younger and yet, only 3 older.

But younger than 25 and I probably wouldn't expect it to be anything more than a bit of fun.

My happiest relationship was with someone 4 years younger than me.

I think as long as you click and they are a decent human being, crack on. But 10 years would probably be my limit.

And if you are only early 20s or younger, keep it within a 5 years. There's a lot of maturing even between 18 and 23 tbh.

And I would strongly, strongly discourage any woman before maybe...24ish, from dating a much older man as many men who go for younger women are predatorial and when you are still young and don't have much relationship exp, you're more likely to miss the signs.

So basically, age 18-23, date within that range. 24+ crack on with whoever takes your fancy. But just make sure you keep up to date with how to spot abusers ect. Never stop refreshing your knowledge on the subject throughout life.

Oh and experience wise, I don't think that's necessarily an issue so long as they are decent people and know how to 'be' around other people. If they are selfish or cause drama then drop them. But there are plenty of people who are like that irregardless of how many relationships they have or haven't been in.

And bedroom wise...there are men in their 30s that still don't have a clue in the bedroom department. What you are looking for is one that always considers your pleasure. They have to also be open to talking about sex and learning from you what you like too. But rule of thumb, if they pay no interest to your satisfaction early on, when they should still be on their best behaviour, it will not get better.

I used to be really silly about this. Missed out on a relationship with a great guy because he was 25 and I was 31, and I thought it was too much of a gap. I see now it really wasn't at all! He was mature for his age and not jaded or cynical from years on the dating scene. If I were dating again, I think I might actively look for younger.