Coping with unsolicited mentions of the ex

[crochetmonkey74]

I'm 10 months post break up, dating online successfully and am happyish. Am realising how unhappy I was with ex, and generally over it. Not pining over him at all. But today, a mutual friend mentioned him on social media and it really shook me. Just a cold, sudden sick feeling. We dont have kids so no contact is necessary, so I've managed to delete and block all social media effectively or so I thought. How do you guys cope with it or is it always that little lurch ?

I said to mutual friends not to pass any messages on or mention - I’m afraid I deleted immediately those that did. I had a short relationship with an absolutely bastard afterwards with the ex wife from hell - recently after a year of silence the ex wife contacted me through a mutual
Friend on Facebook - I defriended her she then messaged me ranting about defriending her and I blocked her - shortly I’m going to cull
Most people and only keep my real
And closest friends on there

Yes IAAP I have been pretty ruthless too. We used to work together so closest colleagues have been asked not to mention , and social media been very closely culled too. It's just those moments when it slips through isnt it? I think its partly as it plunges me back to the first month when I was bereft and literally thought I wouldnt survive. I have come so far, and hate being reminded of it

Why are they mentioning him after 10 months. Seems odd

Par for the course. Feel it and ignore.

Maybe in time the cold, sick feeling will lessen, it just depends: how long the relationship was / how much you loved each other / how it ended and a lot of other little things.
I heard years later that my ex was having a baby, years later that he was married - and both were a dagger to the heart.
Everyone is different though and all situations are different.

@TurnUpTurnip

Why are they mentioning him after 10 months. Seems odd

They are still friends on social media so it was a tagged photo (not a photo of him) more a 'hey @blahblah look at this film poster'

Its helpful to know others have had it and it's just one of those horrible break up things