Friendships

[fairydust2021]

Hi. I wasn't sure if this was the right area to share this but I just wanted a place where I could vent and get my feelings out. I have felt low all day, and I needed to get it off my chest before it ruins the rest of my week.

It was my birthday a few days ago. And at the grand age of 34 and being a single/lone parent for 7 years I have found this a really difficult birthday. To top it all off, not a single one of my friends from my group of 10 school friends who regularly text/meet up wished me happy birthday. I know it seems ridiculous for this to be the thing that has me in tears, but it just really amplifies the fact that I am alone and I'm not special enough to even have a 'happy birthday' message sent over via whatsapp.

This happened to me years ago, I was at a very low point in my life to start with and when my birthday came around not one friend wished me happy birthday, not even a 2 min text.
I'm no longer friends with any of them.

Firstly, belated Happy Birthday! That's rubbish they didn't reach out to say HBD. It's my bday in a couple of weeks (will be 34 too!) and I would feel really upset with none of my friends messaging. Hugs to you x

Happy birthday. Anyone who doesn’t bother messaging isn’t worth your time anymore. Time for new friends

This kind of thing is exactly why I have no friends. When it's their birthday I drive a card round night before, or send text
When it's mine none bothers so I don't bother then I get to the situation where I have no friends

I know this is a bit of a daft question - but did they know it was your birthday?

I don’t think any of my friends would actually remember it was my birthday unless I was the one organising the event. Mind you, they are mostly male and I often forget their birthdays too…

Yep, I was around that age when I didn't get a single card or anything. It sucks.

I'm sorry Op that's really disappointing. It doesn't take much to remember people's birthdays - I'm sure there's an app for those who really struggle . I wonder if they tend to forget their husband's/partner's birthdays...

Happy Birthday! X