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Partner googling escorts in area

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namechanged31 · 20/11/2021 11:09

My phone had died and needed to use partners for YouTube for little girl in car
Opened browser and the page was on viva street escorts
I don't know what to think of this
Does this mean he's been meeting up with escorts ? He doesn't know I seen as quickly shut it off I wish I said something at the time but I was in shock

OP posts:

PingedPotato · 20/11/2021 11:18

Yes or he is at least Googling them

TerraNovaTwo · 20/11/2021 11:19

Yes. What else could it mean?

Dump the prick.

Original poster

namechanged31 · 20/11/2021 11:20

Say he hasn't met them what would be the reason behind just googling? Intention to meet ??

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PingedPotato · 20/11/2021 11:21

@namechanged31

Say he hasn't met them what would be the reason behind just googling? Intention to meet ??

Well yeah or researching how much it would cost etc. Why else would he be Googling it?

Eeiliethya · 20/11/2021 11:51

This happened to one of my best friends.

She went snooping on his laptop looking for clues as to what he'd bought for her birthday and he had been Googling "escorts in area".

What made it worse was the areas he had searched were local to where he was working at that particular time.

When she confronted him he swore blind it was wank fodder and he never would have dreamed of actually calling one. She checked bank statements to see if there was missing money but couldn't see anything.

She weighed it all up and decided that whilst she would never know for certain she gave him another chance. They are still together now and over it.

Planesmistakenforstars · 20/11/2021 12:10

Say he hasn't met them what would be the reason behind just googling? Intention to meet ??

What else could the meaning possibly be? Of course he intends to meet.

jessmin · 20/11/2021 12:12

@Eeiliethya

This happened to one of my best friends.

She went snooping on his laptop looking for clues as to what he'd bought for her birthday and he had been Googling "escorts in area".

What made it worse was the areas he had searched were local to where he was working at that particular time.

She weighed it all up and decided that whilst she would never know for certain she gave him another chance. They are still together now and over it.

I doubt she's over it completely. A breach of trust like that will never be fully repaired.

fournonblondes · 20/11/2021 12:26

I will not trust him anymore. Have heard from friends that younger women are putting up with finding out their partners or boyfriends meet through apps for casual sex. I find this disgusting how can you accept this. Sad times

Aquamarine1029 · 20/11/2021 12:28

This is a deal breaker.

IrishKatie1971 · 20/11/2021 12:34

If you challenge him, he will probably say he clicked on them by accident, or was just "curious" and would never do anything. Most men would never admit to sleeping with sex workers. It's possible he already has and is right now, only he forgot to clear his history this time. Get a check up for STDs at your local clinic. Massive dealbreaker as said above.

Myotherusernamewastakenagain · 20/11/2021 12:35

It could be curiosity or he could be spending all his money on them. Do some digging.

BloodyAlarms · 20/11/2021 13:01

I'd dump him for being a massive sleaze.

roarfeckingroarr · 20/11/2021 13:10

I've googled escorts in my area out of curiosity. I'm a straight woman, it was genuinely morbid curiosity. You never know.

MrzClaus · 20/11/2021 13:27

Is viva street a specific local escort service?

Sometimes if he's been on a porn site (not amazing but it happens!) lots of pop ups can appear, targeted based on your location through your IP address.

claymodels · 20/11/2021 13:30

@namechanged31

Say he hasn't met them what would be the reason behind just googling? Intention to meet ??

It sounds like you are looking to excuse him. Don't.

millievanillaice · 20/11/2021 13:47

Just wondering, there was a documentary about this on tv about 2 weeks ago

Was he just googling out of curiosity?

TerraNovaTwo · 20/11/2021 16:13

@Eeiliethya

This happened to one of my best friends.

She went snooping on his laptop looking for clues as to what he'd bought for her birthday and he had been Googling "escorts in area".

What made it worse was the areas he had searched were local to where he was working at that particular time.

She weighed it all up and decided that whilst she would never know for certain she gave him another chance. They are still together now and over it.

How sad and disgusting. That woman has zero self-respect.

FitAt50 · 20/11/2021 16:23

@TerraNovaTwo

Yes. What else could it mean?

Dump the prick.

Why does someone always post this as the first option for everything?

NotaCoolMum · 20/11/2021 16:31

I found similar on my patters IPad- I dumped his ass and moved out with my DS within 2 weeks

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 20/11/2021 16:45

@NotaCoolMum

I found similar on my patters IPad- I dumped his ass and moved out with my DS within 2 weeks

What did he say when you confronted him?

Buildingthefuture · 20/11/2021 18:57

@terranovatwo….awful comment. You don’t know that woman or her situation. People in extremely vulnerable positions are reading these threads and your judgemental comments aren’t helpful. On average it takes a woman SEVEN attempts to leave an abusive partner. Do you think telling her she’s disgusting will make that happen faster???

TerraNovaTwo · 20/11/2021 21:38

[quote Buildingthefuture]@terranovatwo….awful comment. You don’t know that woman or her situation. People in extremely vulnerable positions are reading these threads and your judgemental comments aren’t helpful. On average it takes a woman SEVEN attempts to leave an abusive partner. Do you think telling her she’s disgusting will make that happen faster???[/quote]
@Buildingthefuture Where on this thread have a called the OP disgusting?

Aarti96 · 20/11/2021 21:53

Sometimes these sorts of pages pop up if you visit dodgy websites, usually porn sites or illegal movie sites.
I would bring it up with him and gage his reaction before jumping to conclusions.

VillageOf8 · 20/11/2021 22:00

OP, my first husband did something similar. I had no self esteem back then so I believed his excuses about "accidently" clicking on the escort pages. Not only was he using our marital money for these escorts, he was cheating with other women such as a coworker and some female "best friend".

I know this comes as a shock to you and you probably really trusted him. I know this hurts and you don't want to believe it. I didn't believe it and got hurt so bad.

My only advice to you is right now, don't confront him. All he'll do is lie and try to gaslight you. I strongly suggest you try to collect further evidence of escort/infidelity then when you have solid proof that even a blind person can see, then you confront him. Also, try to get into his phone again to take a screenshot of that site and text it to yourself. Then delete that text from his phone. As to whether you should leave or not if he's cheating, that's for you but if you do work it out, don't make it easy for him. Personally I would never ever forgive cheating now that I found my self esteem.

MrsSkylerWhite · 20/11/2021 22:03

Can’t you just ask him?

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