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Sexually neglected from my husband

7 replies

marbanana · 20/11/2021 00:05

Hi,
I don’t have anyone to talk to about this, so thought to express myself her. I am 24 year old female, my husband is 28 … we just had our first child who is nearly 6 months ! Anyway what I am here to talk about is the fact I feel sexually neglected by my husband and it’s causing me to be sexually frustrated and then we just argue because of it. But like my husband could go days without having sex with me and even when I say or show I am interested…. I just don’t feel like he is interested or makes me feel wanted. Like I brought two cute bra and undies set and was so excited to wear them for my husband it’s been 3 weeks since I brought them and I haven’t even wore them I even tried them on infront of him to see if that will cause something he just looked at me and said you look nice …. I am starting to feel like
He doesn’t find me attractive or he is grossed out by me or something I feel so insecure and unwanted. But when I talk to him he reckons that men are different from us women and don’t have as much as a high sex drive as us. I just give up I don’t understand how to get him to understand me and the facts that my needs are not being met.

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Sugarntailsnluvlyspicysnails · 20/11/2021 02:21

No, he's taking care of himself and doesn't seem to realise he's in a relationship so only prioritising himself. Because it's easier. Have a chat with him and try to see whether he can recognise you as a full human being, one, who - like the rest of us - has sexual desires. If not, he is not worth your time, space or effort. Unfortunately. Sorry.

Rno3gfr · 20/11/2021 02:26

I felt like your husband after our child was born, it took a long time for my sex drive to come back. Are you both sleep deprived? Sometimes the presence of a new baby and the lack of sleep can put someone completely off sex! In fact, I was worse because I only wanted sex like once a month. Our ds is 3 now and things are getting better, I just felt so worn down that sex was the last thing I wanted. FYI I’m 24 and he’s 27

Aquamarine1029 · 20/11/2021 02:28

If he's like this at 28, I would be very concerned about the future. You have a lot of thinking to do. If he is unwilling to do anything to work with you to improve your sex life, your marriage is doomed.

Fireatseaparks · 20/11/2021 02:38

"he reckons that men are different from us women and don’t have as much as a high sex drive as us"

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doubting this post is real

JamieNorthlife · 20/11/2021 09:35

@Fireatseaparks

"he reckons that men are different from us women and don’t have as much as a high sex drive as us"

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doubting this post is real

Same here Hmm
Glumgal · 20/11/2021 19:26

Reverse

Onatree · 20/11/2021 19:34

This is a wind up/GF/reverse/troll.

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