In laws

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Just wondered if anyone could give me advice with my in laws.

I'm married to DH And he has 3 siblings.
They've always had a very strange relationship, of being really close and falling out.
DH doesn't get involved with the gossip or drama but we always get pulled into things when things go wrong and upsets happen.
His siblings fell out 4 years ago and one of them stopped speaking to us and our DC for nothing we've done (we wasn't even involved.)
We decided to let them get on with it figuring they would end up talking soon but it's been 4 years of constant bitchiness and gossip drama between them.
Now they've decided to speak again and see each other but they still aren't talking to DH again for no reason. (He's asked them for a reason and they've never given him one.)

I'm really sick of tired of all the drama after years and years of it. My DC don't see their cousins because of their parents behaviours and it's negatively impacted them and took them a long time to get over it as they were originally very close.
One of the siblings came over today all excited telling us about their plans with the other siblings but would I be unreasonable to tell them stop? I don't want to hear it anymore especially not about someone who can't even be bothered with family members for no bloody reason?
I'm sick and tired of family drama every week there is some kind of argument (yes even without them talking to each other!) so I know this won't last long and they'll be back at each other's throats.
Every time I hear their names brought up I just want to scream.

Absolutely you should put a stop to this awful drama in your life.

No good ever comes from people like that.

Kindly, you and your husband sound too passive.

You need to tell your husband that you are done with his family and their drama and he is to see the separately but keep them away from you and your home, you no longer wish to hear it.

They sound moronic.

Thank you. I have told him before that it doesn't do my mental health any good and then wonders why I get depressed so easily.
I've also asked them before to stop as it's just pointless but that was a few years ago. At the moment I'm just being snappy with them because I dread when they turn up incase they mention it. It's really not good.
I think him seeing separately would do me the world of good right now.

"Before you accept a diagnosis of depression, ensure you are not just surrounded by arseholes".

Quote of the day courtesy of @ErrmWTAF

This could absolutely apply to you OP.

His family have taken your peace.

Fxxk them and their endless drama.

How about getting some counselling.

Your husband needs firmly putting in his place, he needs to sort his family out.

I would UP your rudeness to HIM and his family.

Start being a difficult cranky woman who is just done.

It can be surprisingly effective.

You have put up with too much.

It is affecting your MH which will affect your children.

Let it all out.

Stop being nice.

Some years ago a friend of mine had very tiresome in laws and her nice husband was too passive.

She took to going to visit her parents on her OWN when they upset her.

Leaving him with 3 children for 2 days.
It was full on for him.

But she just said she felt low and needed to see her parents.

It took 3 weekends for him to join the dots, but he suddenly became just that bit more assertive and less amenable to their visits.

Things calmed down hugely because his parents also joined the dots.

Start looking after yourself.