What do you think about this?

[ami7]

I have changed my name for this, am geuinely wanting advice and thoughts.

Before we started our relationship when we were friends my other half punched me very hard, when drunk and provoked by me, this was a long time ago and he has never hit me since. Would this still bother you years down the line or am i overreacting.

I worry a lot that he will hit me which scares me but i don't know why because he never has since then. He has hurt me accidentally (grabbed my wrist too tightly and stuff) but never with an malicious intent and has always been apologetic for hurtng me.

I feel stupid for still feelng nervous around him but I can;t help myself.

do you have children with him?

I think that they might be your alarm bells ringing there ami7. TRUST your instinct. Feeling physically nervous isn't one of the emotions that go towards making up a great relationship.

By 'grabbing my wrist to tightly' do you mean when you accidently step in front of a car, or when you are having a row? Because if it's while having a row, it's not really accidental, it just causes more pain than he meant it to. It's still physical aggression.

Apologies mean nothing if actions don't change.

no abuse prior am a very anxious person naturally

he has hurt me when grabbing me to tickle me or he has acidentally hit me by not being careful (hand gestures type thing)

if you are not happy then get out. easier said then done but you have to put yourself first

grabbing to tickle or just flinging his hand around is not abuse, that is accidental.

But why did you go out with him after he punched you anyway?

i think this is about me not him

i dont think the acidental hurt is abuse, i mentioned it because it makes me nervous which i dont understand

yes

i am ok abut anxiety i am an anxious person but it does not take over ym life