Newly married

[SammyMit]

Hi all, what are your thoughts on boys holidays or going out and getting drunk after Anne's baby and married.

My thing is how drunk he gets, go out with your mates anytime but do not come home drunk as a skunk?

Boys holidays.... hmmm you are married with kids not 20??

Please can I get some ideas on other peoples perspectives as of course I would like an idea that I am not alone here, but also open to being more lenient on my views if out of order?

We have a 9 month old daughter and he would like another

We are happy and best friends, we have just moved into our family home in April when DD was around 8 weeks old and both work from home. All good really otherwise, just these age old topics 🙈😅

He sounds quite immature. Have you spoken to him about the drinking?

Your post is a bit vague. Has he gone on any boys' holidays recently, or just made it known he would like to?

Does he stay in when you go out with your friends? Would you go on holiday and leave him at home?

I personally wouldnt mind the going out and holiday but my DP doesn't get lashed up. He's not really a 'lad' or heavy drinker

I think occasionally it's fine, if he's out drinking most nights of the week or every weekend is taken up by him going out then that is not fine. Also do you get to see your friends still without children? there has to be a balance between family time and friends but of course his family should be prioritised.

Both me and my husband have enjoyed long weekends away with our respective friends over the years. We are both mid 40s now and still do go away uk and abroad with our friends. But wouldn't do a whole week or fortnight. Longest ive done is 5 days for my 40th in ibiza with a large group of gfs.

As for the drinking every now and then not a problem but certainly not every weekend

I’m quite laid back about lads holidays - we have always done this and also go out with our friends. However, your child is very young. I would suggest you do the same ? X