Is he into me?

[Pineapple177]

So I’ve been dating this guy for a couple months now and it’s been going so well. But the last few days I can’t help but feel somethings not right but I’m unsure if it’s me. I have told him I feel like he’s not that into me and he’s reassured me, still calls me, still calls me pet names, sends me normal messages but has said ‘maybe’ to when I said about meeting up.
I really like him and I want it to carry on as he makes me feel so happy, but I don’t want to push him away by either harassing for reassurance (because nobody likes that) or laying it on thick. What shall I do? Does it seem he’s not that into me by what I’ve said, or is this all in my head.
I’m also not sure if he’s upset because I didn’t speak to him for a whole afternoon and he told me he was worried. I kinda got scared I didn’t want him to ghost me but he called me numerous times and messaged me but since has been a bit withdrawn in the way he writes his messages.
Any advice for a serial overthinker please.

Ps, someone calling amd messaging you several times just because you don't reply for a few hours one afternoon - batshit fucking nuts.

I would just leave it now, if he's being short with you, you don't need that sort of communication.

He has probably got the gist, that you are a trite needy, while he doesn't wan't to be rushed into things. People should refrain from all this texting and messaging, when in a new relationship, and just let things go at their own pace, and see how things work out.

Agree with all the messaging being over the top.

It's like people drop everything to make this one person/relationship their everything.

As hard as it is OP, you have to stop worrying about what he is doing or not doing. Get back to living your life as normal. Spend time with friends. A man should fit into your life and complement that.

Also, it is practically impossible to scare away a man who is truly smitten.

You're not needy it's just your gut instinct telling you something is off.

Even if you are a bit needy with the right guy they won't run a mile but understand you may need a bit of help with your confidence in relationships.

Men are very straightforward. When they like you you know it, no questions need to be asked, men can't hide it when they like a woman.

So many women waste their energy trying to figure out men. If you're doing that they're just not that into you.

When someone's into you, you never need to think about chasing them, as you can't chase someone whose running towards you.

Yes I agree. I've been hit with I'm not in a phone mood so not been on it very much - when a few days ago he couldn't leave me alone when I didn't answer mine.
The worst feeling being played a fool isn't it.

@Pineapple177

Yes I agree. I've been hit with I'm not in a phone mood so not been on it very much - when a few days ago he couldn't leave me alone when I didn't answer mine. The worst feeling being played a fool isn't it.

Change your perception of this. All that's happened is that you've notice someone is treating you badly. Taking action on this realisation is as smart as smart can be, and it's how you reach the ultimate goal that everyone is after: happiness.

He's the fool, and he hasn't even noticed, which is even more foolish.

Thankyou @TheFoundations your words are wise and kind.
I hope I can be just as kind to myself.
He is a fool, and what makes it worse is he knows me well enough to know this will hurt me.

What stops you being kind to yourself? It's an enormous question, but well worth working on answering, because if you can overcome that, your whole life will change, for the better, on a minute by minute basis.

If you are carrying round a person in your head who isn't kind to you, and you switch it for one who is, you'll have confidence at every turn, endless compliments, somebody who's always got your back, permission to do lots of things you deny yourself, endless encouragement, and the power to walk away from unhealthy situations with your head held high.

Give yourself time. It's a horrible feeling and unfortunately happened to most of us. Allow yourself to be hurt and upset, completely understandable.
He's an immature , spineless man child. He reason your hurt is how he dealt with it, as if you're not good enough to be told.
But this is a reflection on him and not you.
I'll never understand why people behave in this way.

And do not give him another thought. Do not reply when he does contact you, he just wants an ego boost.

The same thing happened to my best friends. She was very hurt. She then got in contact with him and they're now 'dating'.
She has been given false hope and believes she can change him

This just sucks. You’re not really dating if you don’t actually date.

No wonder you’re feeling insecure. It’s going no where.

He's a game playing prick.

I completely understand you wanting to feel secure. The fact is, you don't, which tells you all you need to know. It really shouldn't be this hard this early on. Throw this one back, when the right one comes along you won't need to be seeking reassurances and advice on an online forum just a few months in