OLD - where are all the men?

[OLDnightmare]

I’m 36. Joined Hinge. Set a few general preferences. And managed to swipe through all available men in 10 minutes. Before, I could spend hours swiping. Is it my age? Are the men running out already?

Lol - similar age range and I had similar experiences on hinge although the profiles were pretty?

I think some apps are just better used in certain areas for certain demographics 🤷‍♀️

Try mixing it up with other sites - I found the same
mix of genuine guys/creeps on all of them tbh so it’s not like one is the “nice” one which has the monopoly on quality matches.

I thought this was going to be a thread about 'where are all the real men' but no! You mean there aren't many out there? Baffling!

Think I might try this Hinge site out!

Keep your eye out for me, OP - I'll be the one with a profile picture of the Chinese Commusinst Party annual get together.

All those red flags ought to catch your eye . . .

Oh . . . . and don't be put off by my awful spelling and typo's either.

Clue: lower your minimal age limit. You will be pleasantly surprised

Is it the time of year? I'm sure there are 'trends'.

I think for a lot of people 30s is getting married & starting family times, so I imagine the “pool” of potential candidates is quite small for both genders really.
I’m in 50’s and finding my potential candidate pool is actually quite good as divorced ladies come back into the dating market.

Men vastly outnumber women on dating sites so this shouldn't be an issue unless you live in the middle of nowhere.

I would try Bumble and Tinder - there should be far more choice. Of course the more choice the longer it takes to wade through them all....

@coronaway

Men vastly outnumber women on dating sites so this shouldn't be an issue unless you live in the middle of nowhere.

I would try Bumble and Tinder - there should be far more choice. Of course the more choice the longer it takes to wade through them all....

This is from America I think, and the numbers look pretty even, but more Americans use OLD (I think )

www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/dating-site-male-to-female-ratios

Same here
eddie-hernandez.com/online-dating-gender-ratios/

But I did read somewhere that men out numbers women something like 9:1 on Tinder, but I find this hard to believe tbh

This suggests that men out numbers women 2:1 on Tinder

www.mic.com/articles/110774/two-thirds-of-tinder-users-are-men-here-s-why

Which is probably closer to reality

So just pick your app

Never had much luck on Hinge - seemed to be a lot less men in my area and who I may have something in common with and for some reason the ones who liked me were a LOT older (10 years +), and men who I would normally think would like me back (based on other OLD) were not at all interested! Think I got about 10 chats going on there in a month, none of which led to a date and at least half of whom turned rude, or wanted to get sexual right away via chat.

Tinder on the other hand was bloody loads, took ages to weed through the likes, get the chats going etc. But got some really lovely chats going, met some nice people and then met someone lovely and am very happy with him.

So for me even though Hinge is supposed to be a bit more upmarket with people looking for more serious things, and Tinder more of a hookup site - in practice it wasn’t like that at all. You do need a lot of patience with Tinder though to get through the dross.

I guess it might depend on what preferences you set up. E.g. when you were younger did you have a wider age range?

Or have you set a preference for wanting kids/partner not having kids? Even if you - for example - stated an age range of five years either side (say, 30 to 40) there's likely to be a greater percentage of single men who are divorced dads within that, compared to, say, 25 to 35 when you were 30-31.