Together since April, see each other/stay over most nights. Sometimes all week.
We’ve gone to the cinema once. Eaten out a lot. Never met his family or friends though they know about us and vice versa with my family and friends. Gone for lots of walks. Had 11 full days out together in total (think walk, zoo, to a city for the day, etc), all of which were organised by me, though he was happy to pay when we got to places and seemed to have a great time.
It’s like walking through treacle trying to progress the relationship. Last night I said to him that practically living together doesn’t mean we are progressing as we don’t do much couple stuff together. He didn’t seem to get this. I’ve asked him to come to a wedding with me, go away for a few nights, meet my family and he says he wants to and then it never gets arranged/he doesn’t take time off work. Annoyingly he doesn’t update me either, so I’ll raise it and then hear nothing back. My friend is getting married in January and I still don’t know if he’s coming with me!!
I really enjoy just being with him and I don’t need daily entertainment but I an starting to feel like we don’t share much together despite being physically together a lot. When i said this to him he said he spends all his time outside work with me which is largely true but not the point. I want to plan nice things with him! I want him to see my friends and get a flight to france and stay with my parents together. He’s become really moody since I’ve raised it and so now I feel a bit like a clingy child needing attention which doesn’t feel great.
I do a lot with friends so it’s only recently struck me how much this bothers me. I want me and him to have quality time together too. He doesn’t have social anxiety or anything like that so it isn’t that.