to let ex have DC?I can't cope at the moment..

[onmyownagain92]

Relationship has come to an end I'm absolutely gutted we are due to get married next week. So I am having to cancel everything today and loose everything. I've just handed my notice in at work with immediate resignation. I'm 6 months pregnant and we already have one DC together.

EX wants to stay in the house but we keep arguing and it gets nasty so I have told him
He will have to go. He will have to go stay at his mums but it is an hour away.

I really feel like I can't manage with DC and taking him to school and just caring for him. I feel too sad to do anything. I've been ill throughout my pregnancy I've only been able to work full time because I've had OH doing everything else.

I don't know what to do I really feel like a failure as a mum.

You are doing really well to get those decisions made and things done.

This is the domestic abuse helpline: 0808 2000 247

Abuse is often triggered / gets worse when a woman is pregnant.

Tell your mum.

@SaltyPepper

I’m confused? Did the ex get nasty with his words before or after the breakup before the wedding. What I’m asking is - was that the reason for the breakup or something that followed it?

Doesn't matter if you're confused though. OP doesn't have to say what the reason for the break up is, it's moot point and nothing to do with the reason she posted. The break up happened, why it happened is none of our business and irrelevant to the thread. Now she's finding out how to move on and recover from it with her DC.

What's your housing situation?

@KurtWilde

Well I would say it is somewhat relevant as if he was nasty before then I would encourage her to take her child - however if he said some mean things because she called off the wedding (while pregnant with his child) a week before the wedding then him being upset and nasty about it is very understandable and I don’t think reflects on his ability to look after DC.

@KurtWilde

I mean - if he’s always mean I would encourage her to try to keep the children so she doesn’t lose custody, but if it’s a reaction to that then I can’t honestly say DC shouldn’t be staying with him like she asked about.

@SaltyPepper but OP has said she's not going to give him their DS and is sorting out her future.

@KurtWilde why don't you let the op speak for herself.

[quote Sillawithans]@KurtWilde why don't you let the op speak for herself.[/quote]
The fact she hasn't answered your question is your answer I think.

If you were my daughter I would want you to tell me and I would do everything in my power to help and support you. I would not want you to stay with a man who treated you so badly.
You have had a lucky escape from this awful man.
Thank goodness you haven't married him.
Let your mum help you.

@KurtWilde they don't have to.

I couldn’t read and not respond. I am so sorry you are going through this, my heart breaks for you. But you will have your beautiful children and can put your love and attention into them to help you through.

Stay strong and try to remain positive that life will get better. No one needs a nasty person causing hurt in their life.

Doo ok my give up your job.

You can make it work for the few weeks you have left until maternity leave. I'm sure you mum will help while you figure out the rest.