Does therapy work?

[spookybitches]

Has anyone had therapy based around their relationship with their parents?
Ever since having my children, it's made me look back at my childhood and have seen the way I was treated was neglectful at the best of times. I now look back with so much anger and resentment; my relationship with my parents have completely broken down and as much as I feel it is the right thing to go low contact, I can't help but feel upset and angry about it.
I'm living abroad and therapy is expensive. Before I sign up to it, I'd love to know if anyone has been in a similar position before and found it helpful? I've never had therapy before so don't really know what to expect. Thank you

Very difficult to say, depends on the therapeutic method, the therapist, the client, medication and so on.
The therapy I've had has been useful in establishing better personal boundaries and clarifying relationships. I went NC with them many years ago so I can't say if if would have been useful in that regard.
The book 'Toxic Parents' by Susan Forward was useful in identifying what was abusive, I was angry for some time after reading it though...
The 'Stately Homes' thread on here might be interesting to you.

Lots of therapy modalities will explore your relationship with primary carers. Therapy does work in a sense that it gives you choices and shows you options on how to proceed and manage relationships in your life, not necessarily with your parents only. Would Skype therapy from your country of origin be cheaper? That's what I did. I preferred it to be in my mother tongue too! :)

Yes it did really help me. It was expensive but worth it. I now see things so much more clearly and have been able to move on/detach myself which has helped enormously x

I should have said that this was also in relation to my upbringing and my parents.

I had counselling and it changed my life. Same thing... 'they screw you up, your mum and dad'

I think that you have to make sure you find a therapist you trust and can open up to, and not feel judged. Don't waste money on someone you don't think is brilliant; this is the starting point for the rest of your life, make it your priority, and get the right person. Don't take it lightheartedly.