Been with DH almost 11 years, recently married, two lovely boys and a decent house together.
I'm not sure if I'm over thinking a lot of things but I think DH has checked out of our relationship.
- He's constantly on his phone to random strangers that he plays xbox with. If I'm trying to have a conversation with him 2 secs later his phone is in his hand. Then asks what I've just said.
- If he's not on his phone he's on xbox playing games with them.
- Most of the time I need to ask him to do stuff around the house. Washings, hoovering etc.
- Started a new job and its up to me to pick up the slack. On mat leave atm but I will have to do drop offs, pick ups and feed wash and put them to bed. 10 month old isn't the greatest at sleeping.
- I feel like shit every day and I just can't bring myself to tell him. And I know all of the above is just stressing me out more. I'm extremely irritable almost all the time. I'm dreading going back to work, I dread being left with the kids all day, from the minute I open my eyes to the minute they go to bed. I'm sick of the house being an absolute riot, I try to go out because it just gives me a headache looking at all the shit that has just been dumped and left.
Our relationship can be good, we do things we enjoy doing together. I love him and I can't imagine my life without him. He does help out with the kids and they love spending time with their dad (also worried about the impact of not seeing him as much due to new job).
Just wanted to rant a little tbh.