Pregnant using condoms AND vasectomy?

[LigeiaT]

Has anyone gotten pregnant using condoms even when their partner has been snipped?

Does anybody else fear pregnancy so much they use both?

Thanks

Has he had the all clear from his sperm samples?
No we haven't used other contraception since dh had his vasectomy

I don't think you need to be as concerned as you are. As PP says, as long as you have received the all clear from sperm samples, the chance of it failing later down the line is highly highly unlikely. However, if it puts your mind at ease and you are both ok with using condoms then I don't see the harm in it.

He's getting the sperm test in January but has done 30 ejaculations since getting it done at the end of Sep.

I wouldn't stop using contraception until he's had his sample checked, just in case there is any sperm still lingering

@dementedpixie

I wouldn't stop using contraception until he's had his sample checked, just in case there is any sperm still lingering

We haven't had sex yet, not for ages due to pregnancy fear. Just now gearing up to having sex with a condom even.

What were you using beforehand?
I stayed on my mini pill until dh got the all clear

@dementedpixie

What were you using beforehand? I stayed on my mini pill until dh got the all clear

Condoms only, but then my anxiety became too severe.

You should 100% wait till his all clear before stopping using condoms.

They are very effective when used properly, and even with a mishap, the chances are that he will already be clear with that many ejaculations. I, like a pp, stayed on my pill until the all clear came through.

I think your fear is quite unusual. If you want extra comfort, keep using condoms and try to avoid days when you're fertile.

If you are this anxious about it - why aren’t YOU doing something on your end as well?
The Pill? UID?
Surely - if you were protected on your end too, and he used a condom - it’d be safe.

Not having sex, even with protection is a very extreme reaction to a fear of pregnancy. Are you seeing a counsellor? I think you may need to.

I would use them for a little bit after the samples been cleared, for my own peace of mind.

Why are you so anxious about this?

I don’t think it’s fair to ask the Op why she’s so scared of becoming pregnant.
I was.
Wish I’d kept that fear very live and then perhaps (though I wouldn’t have my daughter) I wouldn’t have almost lost my life and did lose a full term baby and now have (a very much loved) severely disabled baby.
I’m so scared of pregnancy that I still do pregnancy tests if my period is late combined with leg pain (my first signs of my previous 4 pregnancies (2 miscarriages on top of the others)) though I’m 46 and my husband has had a vasectomy.
Fear of pregnancy isn’t something to be mocked - she has her reasons (which hopefully are nothing like mine).

@Blue4YOU

I don’t think it’s fair to ask the Op why she’s so scared of becoming pregnant. I was. Wish I’d kept that fear very live and then perhaps (though I wouldn’t have my daughter) I wouldn’t have almost lost my life and did lose a full term baby and now have (a very much loved) severely disabled baby. I’m so scared of pregnancy that I still do pregnancy tests if my period is late combined with leg pain (my first signs of my previous 4 pregnancies (2 miscarriages on top of the others)) though I’m 46 and my husband has had a vasectomy. Fear of pregnancy isn’t something to be mocked - she has her reasons (which hopefully are nothing like mine).

Who's mocking it? It's very unusual to be this worried about becoming pregnant. I was asking a question.

Thanks, Blue4You, yes I do indeed have my reasons for fearing pregnancy so much. I am sorry you've had such a terrible time with it.

So funny how the women's forums on these subjects so quickly devolve into cat fighting. When I search men's reddit threads there is far less of this.

Obviously if I could have chosen contraception for myself, I would have done. Don't you think, MMmomDD, that I would have a damn good reason for not doing so?

I always come here to ask a simple question and somehow it becomes a bitching fest.

Thanks to those who replied politely. To those who clearly didn't read my question before replying - you wasted your time.

Cheers.

@MMmomDD

If you are this anxious about it - why aren’t YOU doing something on your end as well? The Pill? UID? Surely - if you were protected on your end too, and he used a condom - it’d be safe.

Not having sex, even with protection is a very extreme reaction to a fear of pregnancy. Are you seeing a counsellor? I think you may need to.

I agree. Personally I would rather take the pill than faff with a condom.

OP, doubling up on contraceptive methods is extremely effective. To calculate your risk of pregnancy, you multiply the odds together. So male condoms have a perfect use effectiveness rating of 98%. 2 women in 100 whose partners use this method will get pregnant in a year. Male sterilization is very effective. Only 1 in 2,000 men will become fertile again in their lifetime after a vasectomy. So using both at once gives you a failure rate of 1/2000 x 1/50 or 1/100,000. And we’ve mixed up the condom effectiveness rating for a year with the lifetime vasectomy rating, so your chances of getting pregnant using both methods is LESS than 1/100,000 over a year.
I got these stats from the NHS info page on contraception. www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/how-effective-contraception/

[quote Babyiskickingmyribs]OP, doubling up on contraceptive methods is extremely effective. To calculate your risk of pregnancy, you multiply the odds together. So male condoms have a perfect use effectiveness rating of 98%. 2 women in 100 whose partners use this method will get pregnant in a year. Male sterilization is very effective. Only 1 in 2,000 men will become fertile again in their lifetime after a vasectomy. So using both at once gives you a failure rate of 1/2000 x 1/50 or 1/100,000. And we’ve mixed up the condom effectiveness rating for a year with the lifetime vasectomy rating, so your chances of getting pregnant using both methods is LESS than 1/100,000 over a year.
I got these stats from the NHS info page on contraception. www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/how-effective-contraception/[/quote]
Many thanks, Babyiskickingmyribs, I really appreciate these stats, very useful. Thank you.

You’re welcome OP. Another possible anxiety reducing technique for you could be to take a cheap pregnancy systematically every month. So if you did get pregnant, you would know about it as early as possible and it would give you the maximum possible time to sort out a termination. Please ignore this suggestion if a termination is not something you would consider having, for whatever reason. But if you’re worried about pregnancy related medical risks to yourself or just the idea of having a child or another child to care for, this might help quiet any fears of cryptic pregnancy.

@Babyiskickingmyribs

You’re welcome OP. Another possible anxiety reducing technique for you could be to take a cheap pregnancy systematically every month. So if you did get pregnant, you would know about it as early as possible and it would give you the maximum possible time to sort out a termination. Please ignore this suggestion if a termination is not something you would consider having, for whatever reason. But if you’re worried about pregnancy related medical risks to yourself or just the idea of having a child or another child to care for, this might help quiet any fears of cryptic pregnancy.

Thank you for the suggestion, and for your sensitivity in asking it, your help is much appreciated. This is something I do when I am sexual active anyway, for the precise reasons you mention. I always have cheap tests on hand and do take them at the appropriate time. Again, the statistic you mentioned are really great to know. Thank you for the time and care you took in your replies.

Yes, sort of. My DH had the snip and I used the mini pill to cover the 6 months until the anticipated "all clear" result. Got pregnant at month 5 (before the all clear).

Given that the mini pill is more reliable than condoms, I'd say it is entirely possible.

DH then had another snip because the left tubes had rejoined.

It happens.