I have been with a guy on and off for 9 years. We met when I was young around 21. I always felt like he didn’t treat me the way I wanted to be treated. I am 6 years younger than him. I always felt he spoke down to me, patronised me. I brought it up with him many times, thought he would change. Things got better then would go downhill again.
I grew up, moved out into my own place, work 60 hours a week to pay for it so I can be independent. My partner lived with his dad and was having problems so asked to move In with me. I was very hesitant. I gave in and he moved in. Three months down the line I feel like I’m an idiot for letting him live with me. I do all the cooking, shopping etc. they say you don’t know someone until you live with them and I can honestly say I feel like he has no respect for women or knows how to treat one. Only time I receive affection is when he wants sex, he refers to women as bitches and just generally is not a nice person. We hardly ever go out. I said that I’m unhappy and do not like how he is, he’s response is I am to used to being treated well by my mum and this is how a real relationship is. I don’t believe this. A relationship is 50/50, treating each other well, doing nice things together. I have asked him to leave and he says he is not going anywhere what do I do ?