Grieving the loss - after the affair

[Ifeellostandhurt01]

I previously posted here about discovering my husbands affair. Not sure how to link it. Basically we have both moved out and house has sold but in recent days I’ve been hit by this overwhelming grief.

I find myself crying randomly during the day. He was a complete shit to me and is emotionally incontinent. So not sure why I feel like this.

I am not ready to date and to be honest wouldnt have a clue as we were together a very long time and it’s just not something at the forefront for me right now. I am trying to keep busy for when I don’t have the kids but some days I just want to stay in my bed and hide and cry.

Is this normal, any tips for those who have already been through this. I’m flummoxed as normally just get on with shit and I kinda am but the crying!

Hello everyone just wanting I don’t know a handhold?

Well he is back in touch with her, now I can say with certainty that I don’t love and don’t want him back but it bloody hurts. He wanted us to be friends post split and I told him if we were to get to be friends as we do have two wonderful children then only if she wasnt in his life he promised me he had my back and that what he had done was a mistake! Well now he says he is lonely and that’s why he is back in touch. I know he is an arsehole and I know I shouldn’t care we are not together anymore and what he does is his business but why am I crying and upset! I don’t want to feel like this.

I am having therapy, spending time with friends and my wonderful children but then news like this has taken me back to the day I found out. Is this normal?