I've been with my partner 18 months, we both have kids so taking it slowly. At the moment we're at the stage of very gradually meeting kids - just an afternoon a month or so. We've both said we hope to live together sometime next year, all being well.
He's been divorced 5 years. His ex wife used to phone him a lot (help/advice/kids) but it's reduced since he told her about having a girlfriend. I've felt he's triangulated in the past, using her 'neediness' to make me jealous (I ignored).
Yesterday he told me a longish story about how he'd helped his exwife with some work issues recently (legal related) and she'd been so grateful that she surprised him by having a big box of chocolate waiting for him when he collected the kids. I felt the whole story was a bit unnecessary (my exh has helped me at times, I haven't mentioned to my partner as not relevant). Its not the first time though that my partner has said similar things which I feel can only be intended to make me jealous/compete.
Previously he's mentioned things like 'she asked if I'd like to get back together with her'. I dont think he wants to be with his ex wife, otherwise why divorce...plus both of them have had relationships since. In general he's very kind, loving, I'm happy with him. Just not sure why the need to triangulate us?