What's the chances of us getting back together after this long

[Usy777]

My first love and I were together for around 3 years before we broke up about 7 years ago, it was a mutual break up. During the time we were apart she did have a 2 year relationship shortly after she left but that she got cheated on. She did get in touch with me but I tried to stay away from her as I was still healing. In that time I was in another relationship but also got cheated on ironically. My ex however (my first love) did end up getting married but now I have found out she has got divorced recently. I know its a long shot but she was my first love and I never really forgot about her, even though we haven't been in touch for years do you think there could still be a chance for us to be together again?

Do you know why she’s got divorced after such a short time ? Does she have kids ?

What’s changed since the last time you split up though? You seem to have rose tinted glasses on. It was wonderful but you broke up.

My “first love” and I got together again after a gap of 30 years and have been married for 16 years now so anything’s possible. As PP said, it depends on why you broke up - in our case we were young and stupid and didn’t know how to maintain a relationship. Now we’ve grown up it’s wonderful.

"What’s changed since the last time you split up though? You seem to have rose tinted glasses on. It was wonderful but you broke up."

This. Also, most people remember their first loves but they don't remain hung up on them and it sounds a bit like you have. A lot of the intensity of first love comes from it being your first love so it's as much to do with the situation as the person.

Sometimes exes do get back together several years later and it works; more often, if they do try again they quickly realise that they are still incompatible.

There's nothing in your post to explain why there might be a chance for you to be together again but if you're single and you know she's single, and you know how to contact her, you could reach out and see if she's interested in meeting up. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Just be prepared for the fact that she may well have moved on completely (which is the healthy thing to do) and, though she may have fond memories of you, she may have no interest at all in rekindling your relationship and possibly no interest even in just being friends.

I just got divorced and wish my first love would get in touch with me. We were brilliant together, but too young to settle down, our early careers went in different paths. I resonate with your post a lot.

I think you’ve got your rose-tinted spectacles well and truly on, not just because you’re idealising your ‘first love’, but because you’ve emphasised throughout your post that other relationships ended because of infidelity. Just because your first relationship didn’t end in infidelity, and just because it was chronologically first, doesn’t make it ‘truer’ than subsequent.

I personally would find it deeply creepy if an ex I’d long ago lost touch with bobbed up out of the blue as soon as I’d got divorced.

This is a subject I have an interest in
Last year I looked up an ex on fb, really didn't think he would be on it as he wasn't when I looked 10 years before.
There he was. Took me weeks to send a fb friend request. I got the lovliest reply back. Both single. We have met a few times and I hope to see him again next year.
Maybe send a light message about how you have been thinking about her(and friends) in these troubled times and hope she is well.
You might be ignored, or get a cautious reply or a friendly reply or just maybe a wow, so great to hear from you, I tried finding you before.

The latter is the reply I got.
We hadn't had contact for 34 years.