What does Low Contact look like for you?

[PuertoPollensa]

I'm assuming relationships is the right board to post on?

I'm wondering what LC means to everyone.

Did you tell the family members you were going LC and why, or do you just maintain the level of contact that works for you?

I suppose I have gone LC with my mum. She phones once a week or I phone her. So she can talk to my DC.

We have been visiting her once a month but I am pregnant (7+ months) and have said I am not visiting until after baby is at least 3 months old. She will not visit me as she doesn't like dogs (we have one).

She has been quite rude to me/DH since we got the dog, and stopped talking to me.
This was familiar from my childhood/ life up until now so I am not prepared to maintain a relationship with someone who will freeze me out for a decision I have made that she disagrees with.

Hmmm that was longer than I anticipated.

Basically : do I just maintain the level of contact I would like and say nothing about why? Is there a "best thing" to do?

(I'd actually be happy with one phone call a month, not a week, but 🤷🏻‍♀️)

I think that's more than fair.

I don't negotiate with terrorists - that's whether it's a toddler having a tanty, or my Mum. They can sort themselves out.

She's trying to punish you for something she feels you are doing wrong, without actually voicing directly her issue, so I think just ignore, and carry on as normal.

Eventually she did voice her problem but doesn't seem to realize that if we want a dog she doesn't get a vote;

I didn't tell my parents, no. I just had less contact with them, both in person and in other ways (such as texts and phone calls). It's telling that they don't seem to be bothered and they certainly haven't made any effort to pick up the relationship slack.