Me and my girlfriend attend a weekly event at a local pub one evening a week, with a couple of friends too. Ages ago, much before I was with DP, i had a bit of a fling with a woman who works behind the bar, let’s call her Jane. One of my friends made a joke of it once and DP was present so she knows. DP said it was okay, we all have pasts and it’s fine as long as it’s all over (which it definitely is!).
Anyway fast forward a few weeks and we go to this event. Jane walks past and says hi, and I politely say hi back. DP becomes really upset and I ask her what’s wrong, she says that she’s convinced Jane is “mugging her off” as she keeps staring at her and apparently looked smug. I didn’t notice this but to be fair I wasn’t really looking. DP said she’s felt uncomfortable for a few weeks now. I went to the toilet and DP was texting me, demanding to leave as Jane was hanging around and laughing with people we know, and when I came back, DP stormed outside and was sat on the floor crying.
I of course gave her a hug and said it’s all okay, and she calmed down. Said she’s sorry for being a mess and it’s all okay.
But now she’s brought it up again- demanding we never go again.
I’m at a loss what to do now. I know her ex was awful to her but I’ve been going to this event for so long and it’s important to me and my friends. And she’s asked that we or I never go again, that she can’t cope with it and that’s it. I’ll have to lie to my friends why I’m not going anymore.
I don’t know whether I’m being unreasonable but i feel a bit controlled as I did nothing wrong in this situation. The relationship is incredible in all other aspects otherwise. Am I in the wrong here?
Thanks