I’ve been in a relationship for 9 years and for the last few months or so have thought about getting out of it.
It has become a more urgent need as at the moment we are renting a flat but have to vacate the property by May 2022.
My partner is committed to buying a house together and has been saving for a long time to do this but I don’t feel the same commitment he does and I think that going into this is wrong.
The relationship hasn’t been great for a long time, I don’t feel that we connect anymore and I feel like we are flat mates more than anything else. We don’t have sex, I go to bed early and we don’t seem to spend quality time together and when we do we are both on out phones. Sometimes I think he feels the same but doesn’t want to say anything. He has 3 adult children living in London and I have a older son who doesn’t live with me.
There’s always been friction when it comes to
family and that still remains the same 9 years down the line.
I do love my partner and he has given me a good life in the past but I feel I can’t stay in a relationship with him just for that reason.
I’m afraid of making a wrong decision but I also don’t want to make a huge financial commitment about something I’m not 100% sure of either.
I’m sure he knows something isn’t quite right as every time he brings it up he can sense that I don’t engage with him.
He’s going away for 4 days this weekend to see his family and I’m sure he’s using that as a reflection time too.
Posting this here as I don’t have anyone to talk with and thought some online advice would be good.