Getting a marker put on your address

[Peach2021]

I've read this on threads I've written, and seen it on other posters' similar threads. @AttilaTheMeerkat and @Billy1966 you have both said it to me and Becka09009 recently.

What does it mean please, what does it achieve (my 'D'H is living elsewhere at the moment so his potential for aggression is less than it was, although not zero as he will be visiting to see DS) and how do I do it?

I don't want to completely prevent DS's dad from seeing him, and a contact centre arrangement would not be necessary, but if it would help avoid a 50/50 custody arrangement (which I'm sure he will ask for, having lost custody of children from a previous relationship) it may well be something I need to do.

Thank you.

It means if you ring the police a note will flash up on the computer to say you are at risk of domestic abuse and in theory you would receive a quicker response time for that kind of call

Thanks @Fidgety31 I understand now - I didn't know if it was a practical thing or a way of recording problems in case I needed that in the future. Horrid to have to think of either, but there we are...

As @Fidgety31 wrote.

Call your local police station and explain that you have split with your ex.

That you asked him to leave your home because of his abusive behaviour towards you.
That you were afraid of him.
That he wants to see your son and you are nervous of him coming to your home.

Why did he lose custody before?

I wouldn't allow him into your home.

He must do his visits elsewhere.

Have you ANY concerns about him being alone with your child?

If so, then tell him he needs to go through the courts.

Tell your GP how abusive he was.

Create a paper trail.

Ring Women's aid for advice.

Keep posting

Thanks @billy1966 I don't know why the custody of his older children wasn't more shared, even if he was behaving badly it would have been obscured by his EX's extremely controlling behaviour (even the Court told her she was being unreasonably obstructive) so the problems at the time appeared to be all about her...which I now realise was probably not the case.

Re him seeing DS I don't have any concerns - other than he might spend all the time sobbing which I have asked him not to do...I don't want him in the house but currently it is the least worst option for DS, so I am just going to grit my teeth and get on with it.

Re the paper trail, GP and police notice I will get onto that.

Thank you for your help.