I (F31) have been with my boyfriend (32) since April 2021. At first he seemed keen to commit - he told me he was at the stage of life where he is looking to settle down, was comfortable asking me to be his girlfriend (my ex was avoidant and the 'conversation' had to be dragged out of him), asked my views on marriage (I want to get married and so does he), he has met my family and friends and I have met his. We make medium term plans eg we have a holiday abroad booked for Feb 2022.
We still live apart, around 30 mins from one another and see each other 2/3 times a week which suits us both at the moment. We have been away on holiday for 8 days and have had a couple of breaks of 4 days away so we have spent extended time together.
My boyfriend's best friend got a new girlfriend about 4 months ago. This friend hasn't had a girlfriend in 10 years and, despite my bf saying how much he'd like him to meet someone prior to him meeting the new girl, he seems quite 'down' on their relationship. I personally think he is a little jealous because best friend has gone a bit OTT with the girlfriend and will not commit to seeing bf unless he knows new girlfriend is unavailable - he seems to want to spend all his free time with her where possible - whereas before he and bf saw a lot of each other.
Anyway we were talking this evening and he said he wouldn't be surprised if they moved in together and got married soon, at least within the year. This doesn't seem like a problem to me - it's fairly normal for people our age.
I have made it clear to him before that I am looking to settle down within the next couple of years and he said he sees a future together if things continue to go well although he does not seem to be very forward thinking/future focused - I am much more of a planner than him. However, his comments about his friend settling down and getting married fairly soon have worried me...perhaps he is not as ok with this kind of commitment after all? Yet he shows no other signs of not wanting to commit - eg has met friends and family and vice versa, makes medium term plans as aforementioned. His other friends live with their girlfriends and some have babies so maybe this is specifically to do with the jealousy around the best friend rather than his thoughts on commitment?
Should I be worried or am I (as per my username) overthinking? I wasted 18 months with a commitment-phobe in my last relationship and I do not want to do the same again, although admittedly I never met the commitment-phobe's family, he never gave me a straight answer re marriage and we didn't really spend any extended time together.
Any thoughts?