Hi everyone.
Feeling sad to be writing this but over the past few months it’s come to light a friendship has become toxic/very much one sided. It feels like as well
myself & my family are only considered as a second thought too. I need to break away, though slightly tricky as our kids are very good friends (they are bf & in the same class).
We met nearly 11 years ago at a baby group (our DS are close in age) & clicked. We also then became & shared a small group of mum/baby friends together, so we would all see each other weekly, our kids go to the same school.
I began to notice a change after the 1st lockdown. She doesn’t seem to be interested to meet up with me or my family. If we do end up chatting at school gate/or park after school she just makes me feel uncomfortable or makes negative remarks. The conversations become so serious & she is moany.
Some other things that have happened include
-asking me if we have any plans at the weekend, I say no we are free, happy to meet up for walk/bike ride. She says they have no plans but if she hears anything will let us know.
She will then arrange to meet up with others & I find out later on fb posts. We are not invited.
- myself, her & a different friend booked our DS onto a sports hol club for the day over summer hols. An hour before due to drop them off I message to double check location, it comes out both her & other friend are going off hiking together. No invite or mention of it previously. Starts giving me loads of excuses oh I thought you’d be busy, it’s a long way for your youngest (she also knew DH was at home) etc. Other friend apologises said sorry for misunderstanding but she doesn’t. She just goes oh well just come on the walk then.
- In group messenger chats she dismisses my ideas or will find fault. Also meeting up anywhere or doing anything has to be on her terms. For example, she’s suggested we all get together one evening next month to make some Xmas items& if we see any ideas anywhere share in the group. Myself & another share a links & but she doesn’t like mine so she makes it clear she doesn’t or approve/dismisses them. Later she starts posting ones she prefers & wants to go ahead with that one for all of us.
So I feel it’s best to move on, I can’t be doing with negativity in my life - any tips/advice? Obs our DS are still friendly so want to keep it civil.
Xxxx