Does your partner make less of an effort with your side than you do with his?

[Pagan]

Just wondered if this was a phenomenan that only I had experienced. It's not that I dislike his friends or family or that he dislikes mine - well he probably doesn't spend enough time with them to figure out if he dislikes them or not.

I actually quite like the company of most of his pals and going to visit his family and we always do so as a couple but I usually find I visit my own family on my own and if my friends are around then he makes excuses to go out. I'm fed up with always appearing to be single to my side but the happy couple that we are to his side!

He never socialises with my friends. In fact we don't really have any mutual friends but he makes more effort with my mum and my brother than i do with his and we live next door to his!
I don't particularly like his family but i do have to put up with dh slating my dad on a daily basis as my dad is his boss at work and dh doesn't think much of him.
grrr families!

I make more of an effort with dh's family than he does! He's very good with mine, although makes constant derogatory comments about them (I know he's joking, although he'd deny that vociferously ). His family is difficult. His mum is OK, although spends most of her time with her daughter and granddaughter and scarcely sees our boys - and, when she does, spends most of the time talking about her granddaughter - which p*sses me off. His sister hasn't spoken to me for over a year now and I don't know why. If dh was more bothered about it, I might take steps to resolve the situation, but, as he couldn't give a hoot, neither can I.

Have given up trying to make an effort with DH's mum. Nightmare woman. Dont know his Dad....have never met him.

Dh does make an effort with my family and he gets on well with all of them. Its me who moans about my family.

Dh's aunt and uncle and brother are all fab and I wish they were my inlaws. Oh well.

Pagan, you could be me! My DH doesn't really make any effort with my friends either, so I feel uncomfortable inviting them round as it always feels a bit forced.

If I ever point this out, ht just says "Well why don't you get some of your friends round then?" , so I do, and nothing really changes. His attitude seems to be "I've got my friends, I don't need to make any more" but then he moans at me that al his friends are in London and do the same job he does (which means they talk about that all the time - quite depressing when he doesn't like it that much), and he hasn't got any local friends. But when my friends' DHs come over, he hasn't got anything to say to them! Grrrrr.