How do people do it?

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How do people move on so quickly? I mean people who have been in long relationships break up and then dating someone new within a couple of months? I’ve been single for 5 years no dates nothing at all in that time, yet everyone else seems to move on so quick, is there something wrong with me?

No. You sound sensible. How do you enjoy single life?

Opportunity. Online dating. Some were already flirting / cheating before the official breakup

Sometimes there is an overlap of relationships going on and only come clean a few months later so it looks like they have jumped into another relationship. Some people can get over a relationship really quickly and move on in a heart beat. Some, like myself, have finished with a man and within 3 weeks I was randomly contacted by a very old friend about something and we started chatting and have been together ever since. Some of it is pure luck, some of it can be desperation to be in another relationship and people jump to anyone available and some stay alone until they are ready, which could be for years.

Sometimes they are mentally checked out of the relationship for a while before the break up becomes official.

Because sometimes you meet someone when you least expect it are not looking, yet life puts them in your path.

Some people are too weak to be on their own - it is healthy and positive to have time on your own and be comfortable with your self

Thanks I just don’t know how people feel mentally ready after a few months I’m not knocking it I just don’t understand why I haven’t felt ready in so long, maybe the longer you leave it the harder it is? No chance of me meeting someone naturally.