Silent treatment

[cloudsandrain21]

Hi, I just need some advice. My boyfriend if there's something he doesn't want to talk about he tells me to leave him alone and then gives me the silent treatment. I work with him and today is awful he won't even acknowledge me. I haven't done any thing wrong. But I don't no if to try talk to him or give him a taste of his own medicine but it's hurting me. I just want to have an adult conversation

To have an adult conversation you know you need to find an adult. This isn't a very nice person and he sounds very immature. You shouldn't be feeling this about someone who is supposed to care for you. Dump him. He won't get better.

Silent treatment is controlling, abusive and indicates a low emotional intelligence.

It doesn't get better I'm afraid, and he won't change. Its easy to say dump him, but what I will say instead is prepare for a lifetime of this if you stay. I couldn't do it.

He's showing you who he is, believe him.

It will only get worse the more serious you get, can you imagine planning a wedding, or having dc or one of you getting ill. How will you resolve anything if his default is to ignore.

I've lived and married a sulker. It only gets worse and is a form of control and abuse, you're already waking on egg shells now.

Do yourself a massive favour and leave him

Indeed do yourself a huge service here by dumping him. This is who he really is and he is not going to change. You are indeed walking on eggshells now aka living in fear.

I’m married to someone like this. It’s like living in hell. There’s no way out. It’s a really crap life and it’s crap being dependent on someone like this for interaction. Get out now. How do you work together? Find another job! Get away and get a new life. Don’t be me

Ugh my ex was like this. He would give me the silent treatment sometimes for days sometimes WEEKS. At first it would cause me so much anxiety then over time (probably cause my DM would give my DF the silent treatment and it cause anxiety in me as a child). Over time I didn't care anymore which meant I didn't care much about him anymore. It was very easy to be rid of him at that point.

@thisplaceisapigsty has it perfectly, an adult doesn't behave like this. He's training you not to bring up subjects he doesn't want to talk about
or he'll punish you by ignoring you. Why don't you ignore him permanently and see how he likes it?

I know, been rough day. I ended up having a melt down at work. I'm a mature person who feels is being driven to insanity. I wish I could find the strength to walk away

I had an ex like this - would cold shoulder me for hours/days if there was something I'd done that he didn't like. Took me a while to realise he was a controlling prick, and I left.

We've both married other people. I genuinely couldn't be happier, but I do sometimes wonder if he changed, or if his wife has to put up with his childish, controlling behaviour.

Nope, nope, nope, unattractive trait in a child, to sulk, a definite no no, in an adult.

There's a long running thread here where the OP left her sulking DH, after he had ruined one occasion too many with his sulking, definitely worth reading.
LTB.