To ask how you find a nice, decent partner

[CharlieVictorCobalt]

Just wondering this. I'd ideally like a partner, but would rather stay single than go walking into a toxic or non-functional relationship.

Basically, those who are happily coupled, how did you find your partner? What were your green flags? What were your red flags?

I'm new to this whole dating thing, so any and all advice helps

@altmember

Go for the ugly blokes. They're less likely to be arseholes and will always appreciate you for picking them.

I don't think ugly blokes are less likely to be arseholes at all!

I met my husband after kissing many many frogs! I spent my late teens and early twenties chasing man who messed me about, played hard to get, made me feel insecure etc. With my husband, he was just honest and real. No game playing, I don’t have to chase him or pretend to be someone I wasn’t. I felt like I could trust him and be real with him. 16 years and 3 kids later and still going strong. He’s not perfect but neither am I! Good luck in finding a nice man. They do exist!

Men not man! 👆🏼

My dh is a friend of an ex boyfriends from over 10 years ago. I always liked him, and thought he always treated his girlfriends well. He was respectful, funny, emotionally intelligent but obviously off limits and I only viewed him platonically.
After 10 years we bumped into each other single and hit it off.
Hes never ever messed me about, or been too slow in replying, he's happily introduced me to his family, and supported me in every career move, tragedy and tough day.
I think he's been overlooked in the past as he's probably 3 inches shorter than what a lot of women would look for, doesn't have a degree or formal education.

I used the rules book and joined all the associated fb groups. Worked for me