I need advice about domestic abuse and custody

[liveinhope100]

I left my ex 4 months ago. He started hitting me when I was pregnant and one time caused my nose to bleed after my 12 week scan. The last time was 2 weeks after I gave birth he hit me while I was breastfeeding our daughter.

I reported it to the police too late. They said it’s past the timeframe. I’m getting vile threatening abusive messages from his sister now which I’ve reported to the police.

He doesn’t see our 8 month old. He has tried a few times but I said it needs to be supervised (he takes drugs and said he will beat his kids) but he said he will never go to court. I don’t believe him

I want to know where I stand now that he won’t be getting charged. What happens if it goes to court? One day he could end up having overnight stays and I’m terrified what this could mean for my daughter. His family are racist, call me white trash and he openly said he doesn’t like white people yet he was with me for 5 years and we have a child together. I’m worried about all the issues she will have if it goes to court and one day he gets to have her without supervision. I just want to protect her.

I feel like my only choice to avoid possibly ever going to court is to try and let him see her under my supervision but it’s just going to be so emotionally distressing for me.

Any advice welcome

I would contact both Womens Aid and the Rights of Women here; the latter can give legal advice.

He last hit you two weeks ago and its past their timeframe?. I would be questioning this directly with the sergeant at the police station.

Do not ever let him see her under your direct supervision; you're at high risk of being harmed again physically if you do that. Talk with these organisations first and foremost before doing anything else.

One step at a time.
Wait til he goes to court.
Keep your child away from him you have legitimate concerns
Go to police and ask to speak to a dv officer
It seems odd what they told you
Speak to womens aid

Do not supervise contact yourself
Someone else with you and in a public space only
But stick to no contact for now
Your ds does not know any different