With someone for nearly a year and I ended it with him four weeks ago because there was no sign of him making an real commitment.
Things came to a head when he was still dragging his feet about me meeting friends and family. No movement from him about moving in in the coming months etc. He got very funny with me when I got cross about it all and said he was messing me about etc. I was pretty rude to him but I just started to feel like a mug. I told him I loved him and I really didn’t want this to end, but I’m in late 30s and he had just turned 40 and I said if he didn’t know now that he wanted to give things a real go with proper commitment then I had to move on. I said I didn’t want that. There was silence from him and tears. I said he really need to reflect because he’d said very different things to me that did not match his actions… ie that he thought he wanted to marry me, he’d imagined his whole life with me etc etc.
I left, tearful, saying it wasn’t what I wanted. He said he loved me. I didn’t contact him and I’ve not heard a thing. I know it’s for the best. I just feel so confused and battered by the whole thing. I didn’t leave as a game or a ploy to get him to change, I knew in leaving that could well be it. I’m just unbelievably lost and confused that it would have come to this. We were so happy. I have never loved anyone like him and I’m not quite sure how I managed not to contact him but I guess I felt too shocked and raw and in disbelief that he could have made me so happy then not stepped up when it came to the real deal.