Me and my dp have been together almost a year. He's 39, I’m 36. From the day we met I was clear I was looking for something serious, ie to settle down. He said he was completely on the same page.
But as the months have passed there’s been no mention of moving in together in the near (or far!) future, he’s reluctant to let me meet his family as they’re weird apparently… they know about me though and he talks about us on the phone to them. But he’ll go and see them without me. He’s not mentioned Christmas plans, ie seeing each other between Christmas and new year…. I’d probably have liked to have spent Christmas together, is that inappropriate of me?!
I just feel like everything he said at the start was a bit of a lie. We spend most nights together so are almost living together but it feels like zero commitment. On my birthday he bought me a very nice travel cup for work and a glass animal thing, presumably for decor in the house but they seemed like such impulse random gifts with no real thought.
We both make decent money. Both own homes. Both at the top of our career stages. There’s no reason we can’t focus on each other and when I raise any of these things he gets defensive and says maybe he can’t be what I need.
Am i being too much? Wanting too much too soon?