I’m 24 and I’ve never had a relationship and I’m panicking that I never will. I went to a girls school and was very shy all through school and university. I’ve never really been friends with men either-I tend to meet women due to the course I did at uni and the job I did after. Whenever I do meet men, they seem to be gay, in a relationship or I don’t fancy them/and or they don’t fancy me.
I’ve recently moved cities to start a new training course and am much more confident than I used to be. I’ve joined some clubs and chatted to people through new friends, and joined a dating app. It’s quite rare for me to fancy someone and when I do they either seem to be taken or not interested in me even after we have a good conversation/a lot in common. I’m not sure if I’m too picky/shallow and only fancy guys who are out of my league but I’m not sure what I can do about this-I think physical attraction is important. I don’t understand how other people seem to easily find loads of people to date and am starting to worry I’ll never meet anyone I like who likes me back. I’m not unattractive but no guy has ever asked me out or fancied me (apart from kissing in nightclubs at uni). I’ve been on one date from an app recently which was ok/not awkward but we didn’t fancy eachother. Whenever I send likes on the app I never hear back from the men and I very rarely find the men that send me ‘likes’ attractive. Has anyone got any advice/reassurance/ been in a similar position and ended up in a relationship?